If you’ve ever been cheated on, like me, then I’m sure you’ve asked yourself this question. And if you’ve been the one who has cheated on someone (which I’m not proud to admit, but I’ve also done)? Then you really want to know the answer to this: Do cheaters get their Karma?
The fact is that yes, cheaters do get their Karma. You can be sure that if someone has cheated on you, they will get their Karma very soon. If you cheated on someone, you can also expect to Karmically pay for it sooner or later. How a cheater gets their Karma back varies from situation to situation but a few things are standard:
- Karma will make sure that a cheater realizes his/her mistake
- When Karma catches up to them, a cheater will genuinely feel sorry about cheating
- A cheater will also get cheated on unless they realize their mistake and feel sorry about it
- The person being cheated on Karmically plays a part in being cheated on
- The cheater and the person being cheated on can both be free of their Karma by following certain steps that are listed below
When someone cheats on you, they and the person who they are cheating on you with create a lot of Karma. They will have to pay back for this Karma, whether they like it or not. What type of Karma do they create and how will they pay it back? I talk about many of these below as well as what to do if you’re the one who cheated, so keep reading.
How Do Cheaters Get Their Karma?
The most obvious way that cheaters get their Karma is by being cheated on. Maybe the person they cheated on you with will end up cheating on them. Or maybe it will be a partner they least expected to cheat who hurts them. This will make them think back to how they have done the same thing to you and they will realize their mistake and feel sorry for it. For them to finally start to resolve their Karma for cheating on you, they have to genuinely feel sorry and feel bad about how they treated you. Unless they are narcissistic or in denial, being cheated on will bring them to this realization.
If they still don’t realize their mistake after being cheated on themselves, then Karma has other ways to make them realize it. For example, they will be cheated in a business deal or by a friend and maybe even be cheated out of money. One painful situation that I have personally experienced is when someone pretended to be my friend, gained my trust, and convinced me to give them thousands of dollars, but in reality, they were only manipulating me.
Cheaters who don’t realize their mistake for cheating can’t escape their Karma. There’s a quote that says, Karma never loses an address. They will keep paying for their Karma until they make the connection between their own suffering and pain and the pain they caused you. They will attract partners who also cheat on them or who just want to use them to satisfy their own physical and emotional needs.
Eventually, they will find it hard to attract anyone at all. Even when they think that they are being honest and trustworthy, people will see through it and start avoiding any serious relationship with them. All of their accumulated Karma will keep people at a distance and they will start to feel lonely. This is how Karma works. It brings you to a point that’s so painful that you have no choice but to look at your own actions and do something about them.
Will My Ex Who Cheated On Me Ever Apologize?
You might be wondering whether your ex who cheated on you will ever apologize to you for hurting you. To be honest, this will most likely not happen. Cheaters are usually too proud to admit that they did something so drastically wrong. They are also embarrassed about it because deep down inside, they know they did something wrong. So, don’t expect to get an email or text from your ex saying, “Hey, by the way, I cheated on you years ago. I’m sorry.”
Sometimes a cheater will actually blame you for their cheating. They may use some phrases like “We are both responsible for this situation.” They may blame you for being absent or unavailable or make some other accusation. If this happened to you then just don’t take it upon yourself. Yes, Karmically you played a part in being cheated on but the cheater is responsible for his or her decision to cheat. More on this below so keep on reading.
When Do Cheaters Apologize?
Usually, a cheater will apologize when they want you back or are afraid of letting you go. Have you ever received such an apology? How did it make you feel? I’d love to hear the story so please share in the comments section.
From hearing other people’s stories and reading dozens of threads on Reddit, it may feel good to receive an apology but it doesn’t really resolve any of the painful feelings. Sometimes it takes a cheater years before they come to the point of saying sorry. Being contacted by a cheater and getting a “sorry” after so many years might just annoy you and not bring any closure at all. You can be sure of one thing though. They are apologizing for themselves and to lighten their own guilt. They are not doing it for you.
Your Karmic Role In Being Cheated On
If you’ve been cheated on and are wondering what could you have possibly done to deserve this, then the answer might lie in your Karma. It was your Karma to experience what it’s like to be cheated on. Why? Maybe knowingly or unknowingly you hurt someone and made them feel cheated in some way. Maybe you were not completely honest with someone and this is how Karma helped you to understand the meaning of honesty and integrity. Maybe you cheated on your ex in a past life and this is your way or paying back your Karma.
I’ll share a personal story about how I played a part in someone’s Karmic lesson about cheating. As I mentioned before I have cheated on someone in the past and I’m not proud of it. In fact, I went to therapy about my guilt and my heavy feelings about cheating. In my therapy session with the gifted healer Michaela Bisch, we discovered that it was my ex’s destiny to experience and overcome being cheated on. I simply showed up to give him this experience. Through this experience, he learned and grew and eventually attracted another partner who was a better fit for him. And I overcame my tendency to cheat.
If you have a tendency to cheat, then this video will help you.
How To Fix Your Bad Karma From Cheating (And Being Cheated On)
If you’re worried that you have bad Karma and that’s why you keep getting cheated on, then there is hope. You can take certain steps to work through your Karma quickly so that you won’t keep getting hurt by cheaters over and over again.
- Have ZERO tolerance for cheating and being lied to. As soon as you find out that you were cheated or were lied to, take an immediate stand against it. If your lifestyle allows it, cut the cheater and/or lier out of your life immediately. If you suddenly start receiving calls and messages from the cheater’s friend asking you at least to hear them out, then you have to be extra careful because they are using their friend circle to manipulate you even more. This is where you need to move on to the next step.
- Set and protect your boundaries. Even if your lifestyle doesn’t allow you to separate from the cheater and lier right away, you must set your boundaries clearly. Here’s an exercise that really helped me to set a strong impenetrable boundary against someone that cheated me in the past.
- Hold up your hand as if you’re saying STOP!
- Imagine the cheater is standing in front of you and you are physically keeping them an arm’s length away.
If you’re a cheater and are worried about your bad Karma from hurting someone, then my post on this topic has lots of tips on how to fix your bad Karma. To summarize, the quickest ways to fix your bad Karma from breaking someone’s heart are:
- Contacting the person to ask for forgiveness (however, when it comes to cheating, this might cause more pain and confusion than helping them to heal)
- Asking for forgiveness in your heart, but really truly feeling sorry about it first so you mean it
Check out my free guide for instructions on how to do these.
How do you feel about being cheated on? Do you think the cheater got his or her Karma yet? Do they ever try to blame you for their own actions? Do you think that your own Karma caused you to get cheated on? I’d love to hear your story so please share it in the comments. You never know who you might help by sharing your story.
Around one month back I wrote a comment on your blog asking why my ex-bf is still happy even after cheating on me. I think I got my answer. Thank you, Ritu. <3
I’m so glad this post helped you find some answers and clarity.
I had my relationship with my ex for 1 year 7 months. It was all quiet good indeed… I gave all my 200% more than he deserved. But he had always been hurting me forcefully, in everything . Yes he says sorry but I never felt his sorry a meaningful cuz after saying sorry again he repeated continuously hurting me. Hereby I always did forgive him. We had arguments a lot whereas I always tried my best to save our relationship. He did judged me a lot through my lifestyle, my male friends etc. And someday he said he wanna break up it was quite shocking for me. I rang him 15 calls and he said I wanna end up here I asked him why and he replied just don’t wanna stay up with you. And the next day I rang him up and again I asked why are you doing to me and he says no real reasons for breaking up. I literally broke down into tears, beg him to meet me up but he didn’t. And I couldn’t bear this pain had a poison. I was too much critical in that pain still near family I beg him crying catching his legs but he didn’t show no mercy and blamed me so fake. I said him at least stay for today with me in these condition ,but he left me in that way too. And I tried contacting him but he didn’t gave me no response. After a week I get news that he went in relationship with some other girl I knew it just as a friend who said me he was his brother. As it took me a month to recover from my illness. After break up too the girl was hurting me as the way I was close to my ex the girl was too doing the same, the nicknames I named him she does that. I was probably crying like why are they hurting me when I’m not interfering in their life. However still I do love my ex a lot as I was doing. I don’t have an expect that he will return to me, but somehow I’m waiting for him. I feel so hateful to myself that I did everything for him and at last I got insults, fake blames, disrespect. Will I ever get justice for my efforts I putted on him. I sometimes feel like to give up.
Dear Mary, don’t give up. Any kindness, caring and respect to gave him during your relationship is stored in your Karmic bank account as Good Karma or PUNYA. It will come back in the form of blessings in your other relationships and in other areas of your life, like your career and finances. Don’t give up hope.
This warms my heart. Thanks for saying this.
I was married for 33 years. My ex husband retired in the 30th year of our marriage. He was in a very high post. he could not handle retirement and loss of power. he started getting distant and raising funny issues. Then he got another good job and there he met someone else. Long story short… he divorced me citing incompatibility and accusing me of not caring, and married the other woman. He has moved on and seems very happy and progressing in life, whereas I am stuck trying to deal with emotions and finances. I don’t think Karma exists.
Hi Soma, don’t give up hope. Karma does exist. Just give it some time and you’ll see how Karma will get him. He seems happy on the surface but in reality he’s just using the other woman to cover his insecurities about losing his high position.
Hey im sorry this happende to you
Can i ask you if you found someone?
Are you ok now?
I had a 6 week affair with a married work colleague. I knew he was married with kids. His wife found out. Will karma come back for me?
Yes, you did create some Karma through this. But don’t worry, you’ll get a chance to resolve it quickly. Just be open to it. If you feel sorry in your heart, it will be easier on you to burn the Karma. There’s a whole guide on making is process easier here on this post: https://www.thelifester.com/how-to-get-rid-of-your-bad-karma-fast/ I highly recommend you read through it.
I emotionally fell for someone else and emotionally cheated. Will karma come
Back for me? What steps do I need to take? My boyfriend has forgiven me but I’m so scared of what karma I will receive.
Hi Claire, this is actually a natural process. Did you also physically cheat? Were you able to keep a distance from the person you fell for? The first step in the right direction you took is that you were open with your BF and he knows. If he truly forgave you, then you can try to forgive yourself too. This will make it easier: PROMISE TO YOURSELF that you’ll never let yourself get in that position again. If you fail in this then you have to break up with your partner first. Create such a serious ultimatum for yourself. Then you’ll have the integrity to go through with it and stay true to yourself, which is the most important thing.
Hi my bf cheated and backstabbed me for another girl . I was with him through ups and downs but now he said im worthless and he made another girl pregnant. Now he is about to get married and living his life happy . Do u think he will get his karma? He seems to gets all he want and living happy life in another country after he does all the bad stuffs. Ungrateful person
Yes, of course, he will get his Karma, you can be sure about that. You have to ask yourself what part you played in this whole picture. Were you too trusting? Were you too judgemental? Accept your part in it and then let it go. Let Karma get him. It’ll do a better job anyway.
Yes i trust him more than anything and been there for him through thick and thins at the end he cheated on me with another girl and made her pregnant for earning green card and dumped me . Its been 3 years and he is doing fine but one day i hope he gets his karma
Hey im sorry that heppende to you
You deserve the world
You deserve someone who would climb the mountain for you
And here’s something that will cheer you up
Karma will happen when you least expect and then you will laugh at his face
Pain wont be forever some day youre gonna meet someone and forget about all of these things
He will get his karma soon or late
And dont worry you lost a cheater and he lost someone worthy like you
I wish you a happy life
And if you found someone please let me know i would be happy for you
Aww thank you and god bless you
The only mistakes that i made is trust him and made him as my first priority and stand with him through thick and thins he just dumped me for green card and made another girl pregnant behind my back been 3 years heard he is happily married and living his life better but i hope one day he regret for what he has done to me and gets his karma
Hi Rithu,
I just ended up a toxic relationship with my finace because I caught him cheating on me with his ex who cheated on him before he got involved with me and the answer I got to my question was that he got sick of me because I had trust issues ..But the actual truth is he has been seeing his cheating ex from the inception that he started this so called serious relationship with me .. And yesterday when I caught him coming out of the motel room where he and I went the week before he looked surprised but was in denial of all the promises and commitment he gave me … Finally since I had no choice I left both of them saying to stay blessed . I also have to mention that I am a single mom and he knew it very well.. I am now heart broken and trying to recover from the damage he caused because even after listening to my whole story even his ex cheating girl friend said that he loves her and that they’re planning to move in together .. now that he has blocked me from everything .. I just want to know what will be his fate now? Will he get his Karma for intentionally hurting me knowing that I was loyal to him…
Hi Marian, Yes, you’re right. He will get his karma for hurting you and taking advantage of you. Let’s be honest, he knew that you were in a vulnerable place and he fully Took advantage of that. You can admit that he used you, and call it what it is. This will make you to heal from this faster. I do have to ask you to also look at yourself and see the role you played in allowing this to happen to you. A part of you intuitively already knew that he was not trustworthy. But you still let him into your life and were loyal to him. Next time you must honour your intuition and next time you have to do a better job hearing your intuition. Listen to what your gut is trying to tell you. Meditating will help you hear that voice better.
My husband keeps cheating on me. It’s 6 years now. Our son is 1 year old. Why is this happening? I keep forgiving him but am now too tired of the game. I’ve always been in denial. Should I move on now? He admitted he’s sorry but it doesn’t mean anything to me. After all, a changed in behaviour is a sign of apology
If not then it’s only manipulation.
Our 26th year of marriage I discovered my husband (now ex) had been living a double life and had been cheating on me with many woman…some sexually, some emotionally, some both. Some were long term on/off affairs, some one night stands, some paid hookers. This was a man who had me convinced we were soulmates, best friends and he loved me more every day. This was a man who is very charismatic and was a master at navigating lies. We met young and had 3 sons and worked hard to build a great life from nothing. I believed our marriage wasn’t perfect but we were perfect for each other and we had overcome and claimed victory over many trials. I believed we had a good happy marriage. I built my world around him and our family and gave my all to him and our family. As I discovered every lie, every woman and every guilt gift he gave me…I was in shock but was still in love with my husband. We are now divorced for obvious reasons but I was willing to try and forgive and start over but he just couldn’t stop lying and cheating even when he was supposedly trying to make it right to even start a clean slate. I just kept discovering more lies and woman…new ones. He never stopped lying or cheating. It literally tore my soul to pieces. Fast forward and we are 2 1/2 years post divorce. He spent the first year and a half being single and hooking up constantly. Then he met a woman on a dating site and moved in with her 2 months later. He abandoned our 3 sons and does not have a relationship with them. He continues to lie about all kinds of things. He has blasted his new relationship all over social media claiming he’s the happiest he’s ever been in his life. Every special vacation and celebration and date we made memories with he has begun taking her to the exact same places and blasts it. He just got engaged and proposed to her the same way he did me…downtown city horse carriage ride…have the carriage stop in front of a beautiful downtown church and got down on one knee. It seems his life is perfect and he is happier than he’s ever been. How can that be when he single handedly destroyed his family and relationship with our 3 sons? Will he get his karma?
Dear HMB, it sounds like he’s running away from something inside of him and using sex and lies as bandaids solutions to a deeper pain inside. Do you have any idea what that might be?
He is ALREADY paying for this Karma. He might look happy on the outside blasting his new relationship on social, but it’s a sign that he’s actually really not happy because he’s not doing anything original. He’s trying to recreate the happiness he had with you but this time with someone new. And this is never going to work.
He is already in pain. Just from your description, I can feel it. And he’s punishing himself by distancing himself from your sons.
My ex-boyfriend proposed me and made me fall in love with himself and after few months he changed his attitude towards me.. Stopped giving me time like earlier but still gave me fake hopes that he loves me unconditionally and broke up with me after few weeks didn’t even bother to tell me the reason and didn’t replied my answers.. Shockingly he knew I’m hurt about his decision but still he last time replied me in a insulted way… What you think will he get back his karma? Will he be guilty someday?
Yes for sure he will get back his karma. Whether he feels guilty or not depends on how quickly he realizes how he hurt you by being hurt in the same Way by somebody else
Iv had a numerous amount of experience in having karmic relationships or relationships where iv been cheated on or lied to in a horrible way. I feel like im living in a loop and noticed that all my relationships lasted for 6 months and one lasted for 6 yrs. How do i break this karma and yes iv cheated one time before but sometimes i feel terrible i keep living in this karmic loop.
My boyfriend/baby father of 3 years we have a daughter ive been with him through everything literally ups and downs all of it . He left me and our daughter for another woman got her pregnant treats her how i begged to be treated he cheated on me the whole time with her and it seems they’re happy and im still hurting is karma even real
Hi nila , yes karma is real. Just be patient and keep watching him and you will see when he will eventually have to pay back for what he did. Also ask yourself what role you played in allowing this to happen to you. This will help you get over him quicker
Hi I’ve been with my children’s father for 17 years and he cheated on me with one of my use to be friend don’t get me wrong I have done stuff and I have own up to it but over the years he has done my so wrong and I still took him back and forgave him even when he still was accusing me of cheating every time when I wasn’t when I started to get sick and when I needed him the most he wasn’t there for me so when I found out who he was cheating on me with it hurt me to my core and now they are rubbing it in my face and saying they are happy and blessed and as for my children’s dad he’s tarnishing my name just out right dogging me out talking bad about me to our 4 children I told him karma is a b**** he said karma isn’t going to happen to me I’m blessed god is good to me and I will always struggle and they will always be blessed and treats me like I’m beneath him I have tried to keep it cordial with him but every time I do he always try to put me down and or try to hurt me even more then telling our children that I cause this to happen but still telling other people that he still love and care for me then go back to he’s selfish ways I’ve tried to let it go so many times but 17 years is a long time just to let it go but now I have and doing my best for my children that’s all I can do is there any more information that can help me stay positive and let karma and god do their work
Hi I have been going through a 5 year break up with my ex for the last 2 months and it’s only ended now but I have been receiving bad karma due to me cheating after my mum past away and the way I’m hurting over this break up is messing with my head. I lost all so called friends my ex and my mum it’s like nothings going good for me, I’m in the worst place I could eve be in life but I have realised I’m toxic and I’m trying to seek help as I don’t want to be like this and in the past I have always had my partners cheating on me so I haven’t learnt my lesson and ended up cheating with my last ex and I regret it and now I have to live without the girl that had my back.
Hi Callum, thanks for sharing here. It takes courage and you’re helping others by sharing your situation. To come to this realization, that brought you to the point of realizing that you want to seek help, is the biggest Karmic lesson from your ex. The fact that your multiple exes cheated on you is also connected to your Karma. Now it’s starting to dissolve and in a strange way, you cheating was the first step and sign that your Karma is starting to dissolve. Hope this helps.
Hi Ritu, I was in talks with a guy for arranged marriage. He was in US and I was in India and we were waiting for the airlines to open in the pandemic situation so that we can meet. We were in touch for 6 months. After that when the travel finally opened, I told him I am planning a trip to US to meet him. When I told him that, he said he is already seeing a girl in US itself and is going ahead with her. I was shocked but anyway told him to meet me when I come. He agreed. Now I am in US and now he is saying he still doesn’t want to meet as he is going ahead with the other girl. He never informed me this all this while when we were in touch that he has started looking at other girls. He acted like he was serious about me and I never in my wildest dreams would have imagined he would do this to me. And the worst part is that he doesn’t even feel sorry for it. What did I do to deserve this? Will he face his karma?
Hi Naina, thanks for sharing your story. There is definitely karma here between you two. It could be a past life thing and also your fate to end up in the US. He played his part in getting you there. There is something beautiful planned for you there in your future. Right now it is not obvious but there is. Trust in that. Forget him as much as possible and try new experiences and make new friends. See where that leads to.
Hi, My boyfriend of 3 years recently broke up with me. I thought we had a very loving and trustworthy and beautiful relationship. Turns out, he was not happy and suppressing feeling of resentment until one day he had enough and broke up with me. In the beginning, he pursued me. I was with a different person when I met my recent ex. He pursued me, we became friends, made a move to kiss me knowing I was with someone all ready. But he was so sweet and charming and loving that he swept me off my feet. I broke up with my boyfriend to be with my recent ex. Could this breakup be my karma for my past relationship and how I cheated and handled the breakup? If so, is it possible to reconcile with someone after the karma “debt” has been repaid? I really felt a connection with my current ex but I feel this had to happen to pay my karmic debt and his because he went into our relationship seducing me to cheat. Could we survive this after the delust settles? Once we learn our lessons? I have turned my life around and have changed from having a dependency to alcohol due to our breakup, which was another reason we broke up, drinking made me a bad person. He didn’t like who I was when I drank and I couldn’t control my drinking once I started. I’m wondering if we had to expose our truths and right out wrongs in order to reconcile with each other and have a clean slate. I need enlightenment please. Because our relationship had so many beautiful moments and love. I cannot accept it was all for lessons only and that we will not end up together.
When it comes to karmic relationships, it is about ending the karma, not necessarily the relationship. so yes, if you feel reconciled, then the relationship can continue.
Hi, I cheated on my last relationship then after that my currently ex partner cheated on me. I believe this is a karma and I’ve been guilty of it. My question is my currently ex who made me realize my mistake be also receiving karma too?
I believe so. Your ex will definitely receive the karma, it’s inevitable. Unless you have past life history where you owed each other this experience.
I met a person in 2018 and apparently he was the son of my dad’s friend. I was on vacation with my friends when we met each other. We knew that something clicked. I came back and took my time. After a year or so we told each other that we are in love. I was so happy that I even told my family about it. After 8 months of being together, I saw his ex profile picture with him, I confronted him and was being told that we are only friends. I called his ex and she told me that they are in a relationship for the past 9 years and it’s not the first time he cheated on her. She’s been already cheated on 4-5 times. I thought once to forgive him, and start fresh but his ex was not ready to let him go. She wanted him at any cost whether faking emotions and crying with crocodile tears, physical stuff, etc. I loved him but I realized, it is best for me to leave him and move on. And the person and his ex are still together. I was being made the other women, without even my knowledge. I don’t know if law of karma still works.
I hooked up with a friend who had a girlfriend. There was no emotional connect. It didn’t mean anything. Recently my ex-fiance cheated on me emotionally, left me devastated and broke up the wedding. I wonder if karma would come back to me for cheating physically as well. I am so distraught and can’t even think how I can correct my mistake.
It does sound like Karma is involved here. If you see the connection then you have already started paying back the Karma. There are ways you can speed this up. Have you considered saying something to the friend’s girlfriend to confess? This might help. If that’s not an option, then speak to the friend you slept with. Clear the air. Try a clearing exercise. In the meantime, try this meditation on my shop to apologize to an ex. This is also helpful. https://www.thelifester.com/shop/saying-sorry-to-an-ex-meditation/
Hi l have been with someone for 18 years he has cheated on me sooo many times l have caught him he denies it he’s always on the computer talking to girls l believe in god my daughter n l have been through hell and back with him he doesn’t respect me or her he only cares about himself will karma get him
Hi Cindy, yes, Karma will create a situation where he is forced to consider others. From your description, he sounds like he could have narcissistic tendencies. This channel on youtube has some resources on that: https://www.youtube.com/c/CommonEgo
Hi I was in a 2 year relationship with my bf one night he suddenly sent me breakup texts and said it’s over then we were in no contact for almost 2 weeks after that he contacted me again and asked me to meet, I agreed but after meeting him I realised something’s fishy because his behaviour was quite changed. After searching on social media I came to know he got married with in these few days when we were in no contact and he didn’t tell me anything about this. He married someone else without even letting me know and then came back again into my life to continue a relationship with me. I was shattered to know the truth. I was in pain. I have been hurt and cheated. When I questioned him why did you lie to me and hadn’t told me anything he said he was under his family pressure and due to circumstances he had to do this.
I also wanna tell you that this my current bf when came into my life 2 years ago I was in another relationship with someone else (my past ex bf) and my current bf unexpectedly came into my life. I was not in good terms with my past ex bf we were in no contact situation when my current bf came. He(my current bf) gave me so much love and care I got attracted to him and he made me fall in love with him, even I also told him that I’m in relationship but he still continued to approach me everyday and confessed me that he loves me and wanted to marry me. By his continuous actions of love and care towards me everyday he made me fall in love with him. We both get committed to each other in a relationship. He promised to marry me. I left my past ex bf because of my current bf who left me broken today.
Is it my karma for breaking up with my past ex bf but I didn’t do it intentionally because my current bf suddenly came in between at the stage when I was already in no contact and circumstances made me to did cheating on my past ex bf .
But if it is my karma I realized it maybe I left someone so my current bf also left me today.
I can’t change my past but I truly love my current bf.
I’m deeply in love with him. I do feel sometimes that due to my past karma this separation happened between us.
Is it possible that we reunite again? If we clear out our karmas. We both feel strong connection with each other. I have got my karma already by losing my current bf but can we get into reunion again as we both feel so deeply connected to each other even after this separation he also told me that he only loves me and miss me everyday. Please reply. I couldn’t able to reach out to you, don’t know why I have posted my comment many times.
Dear Seerat, thanks for sharing your story here. Yes, partially, the Karma of you leaving someone to be with the new BF is coming back to you now. More importantly though, the way you describe the beginning stage of your new relationship has signs of a Narcissistic personality in the guy. Have you done any comparison of his personality with that of Narcissistic Personality Disorder? No matter what the connection is, if you can accept him with all his mistakes, and he can accept you back, and also make space for your hurt feelings about how he left you, then you have better chances of having a future relationship together.
Hi, I have been in an LDR for over 2 years with a girl. But recently she keeps on complimenting about a guy whom she seems very close to and the guy proposed her once. I really feel very bad and seems cheated but she don’t understand my feelings…. Will Karma use that guy to teach her a lesson for ignoring my real love??
The fact that she doesn’t understand your feelings means two things: 1. She is also attracted to the other guy and is in denial or simply wants to hide it from you. OR 2. She is completely committed to you and would really never think of cheating. In that case, she should still at least hear you out and give your feelings some respect. If you feel the respect is starting to leave, then be careful. Her heart is somewhere else.
My ex girlfriend cheated on me. We don’t have a proper break up, and im so depressed right now. I don’t know why she do that to me. And she don’t even care my feelings. Can someone help me?
my ex girlfriend cheated on me last month :((
So I’m having a really hard time. My ex her and I were engaged,and had one of most special connections I have ever experienced. We were so close,and just felt so right. I truly believed she was my soulmate. I still want to believe this. So her and I had an amazing sex life,and we decided to try something new. We were both open to having a threesome. I got to choose the guy,and she got to choose the girl. Well I made a huge mistake of even following through with this. I now realize sex is sacred and inviting someone else into our relationship was the start of our relationship falling apart. So we had a three some with a guy,and then she was supposed to choose a girl. Well it seemed that she kept avoiding it,and pushing it off. Like she didn’t want to do it anymore. I felt hurt by this because we both made an agreement in the beginning. So I made a huge mistake and went behind her back and messaged this girl. I was planning to hook up with her. Although I never did,I still know this was a form of cheating. I felt beyond terrible about it. I actually tried taking my life in our own bed. I felt like I didn’t deserve to live after hurting the woman I love so dearly. I went away for some treatment,and in that time I was away she had cheated on me with her manager. I had to find out through the managers girlfriend,she told me it had been going on for 2 months straight. I received the sex video of my fiancé and him,and all the flirting text ect. I was crushed I never expected her to do anything like this. I don’t know what hurt worse that or the fact that she lied about it when I confronted her. So originally we broke up,and I blocked her. We reconnected and tried to make it work. She just wasn’t ready though. Her mind was scattered,and we both agreed to take time for ourselves to heal and work on bettering ourselves. Well in that time that we both were supposed to focus on ourselves I found out she slept with my old bestfriend,and also slept with his friend a few times. She also had lied about this when I confronted her. Eventually she finally came clean,and told me the truth. We are currently still talking,and doing our best to make this work. She is starting counseling,while I’m still away getting help. I told her I’m proud of her that’s a great start. I love her with all I got. I don’t want to give up on us. We been through so much together,and always found a way to get through it. I feel she is my soulmate. When we first met our connection was just there it felt like I knew her but we had just first met. Anyways long story short I am wondering is this my karma from texting that girl behind her back with the intentions to hook up with her? Will my ex get any karma? How can we both heal from our karma so it doesn’t carry with us in this life or the next? I love her beyond words is there any hope for us?
Hi Joshua, thanks for writing your story here. It helps others just to read it so you’re helping others by working on your own Karma with your ex. What’s happening to you regarding your ex cheating on your and sleeping with people close to you like your best friend is not because of you texting that girl with the intention of sleeping with her. Your texting contributed to it, sure, but this is bigger than that. From what you wrote here, it sounds like the Karma between you and her is much bigger. It boils down to respect. Perhaps in a past life you didn’t respect her at all and stripped her from her dignity. Now she’s doing it to you. What can you do about it now? Let me ask you this. If you found out that the girlfriend of one of your buddies was doing that to him, what would you beg your buddy to do? Would you beg him to cut her off and would you want to protect him from being hurt by such a person? Or would you do nothing and allow this to continue? Is it possible for you to apply that same advice/love/support to yourself? Hope this helps.