Will Karma Get My Ex For Hurting Me?

If you’ve ever been dumped before then this question must have crossed your mind: “Will Karma get my ex for hurting me?” I have asked this countless times after getting dumped in High School and then again in my early twenties.

Now that I’m in my mid-thirties, I can tell you this from first-hand experience: Yes! Karma will most definitely get your ex back for what he or she did to you. How do I know this? Because I’ve LIVED through it – both as a dumpee and as a dumper.

Karma will make sure that your ex understands just how badly they hurt you because they will be hurt in the exact same way. If they left you for someone else, their next partner will leave them for someone else. If they cheated on you, they will get cheated on. That’s simply how Karma works.

Every book on Karma will tell you this: every single action someone takes, creates Karma. Good actions create good Karma (or Punya) and bad actions create bad Karma.

But wait! I’m not just regurgitating book knowledge. I’m telling you that this is 100% true because it is what I’ve experienced first hand on many separate occasions in my life. I share my personal stories below so read on.

Will Karma Get Him For Breaking My Heart?

When your ex dumped you and hurt you, he or she created a lot of Karma that they will have to pay for. Their Karma and their action will come back around and hurt them in the exact same way they hurt you when they dumped you.

So, YES. Karma will get your ex for breaking your heart.

Karma will get your ex so hard that they won’t know what hit them. But eventually, when they’ve suffered enough in the hands of someone else, something will click in their brain. They will finally realize they are getting back all the pain and suffering that they gave to you so long ago.

I’ll share a true story from my life about how Karma got my ex back at the end of this post, so keep reading.

Will My Ex Feel Bad For Hurting Me?

You can bet that your ex will feel bad for hurting you.

And if he or she doesn’t? Don’t worry. Karma will make sure they keep suffering until they realize what they did to you and feel sorry about it.

The thing is though that Karma works on a different timeline than what we are used to. It can take years, decades, or even lifetimes for someone to learn their lesson.

If someone doesn’t learn their lesson or pay for the bad Karma they created in this life, then they will learn it in their next life. They will never be free until they’ve learned their lesson.

Not only is it necessary that your ex feel bad for hurting you, but they must also truly feel sorry about it. Otherwise, they will never heal.

Even though Karma has its own timing and I said that it can take lifetimes until your ex will learn their lesson, it can also happen incredibly fast.

According to Yoga and Hindu philosophy, we are in the Kali Yuga (Kali Age) right now and in this time period, time is sped up. Karma in Kali Age and specifically how Karma works in romantic relationships in much faster.

Here’s the good news. Because it is Kali Age, when your ex breaks your heart, they will have to pay for this Karma in this lifetime. Even if they are 90 years old when they learn their lesson, Kali Yug will make sure they learn it.

How Do I Get Revenge On My Ex?

It’s completely natural that after you’ve been hurt, you want to hurt your ex back. Sometimes it’s not enough to leave it in Karma’s hands. Sometimes you might want to take it into your own hands and get revenge on your ex.

But here’s why shouldn’t. Not only are you lowering yourself to the level of your horrible ex, but you are also interfering with Karma. Be patient and let Karma do its thing.

If you try to take things into your own hands and get revenge on your ex, you’ll be creating so much bad Karma for yourself that you’ll be paying for it for lifetimes.

How Do You Respond To An Ex Who Broke Your Heart?

There’s nothing that can throw you off your balance than when your ex contacts you.

When your ex who broke your heart messages you out of the blue and wants to be in touch again, just wait. How you respond should be different based on what they say.

If they messaged you to say sorry, pause before you write back. Close your eyes and meditate for a minute. What do you feel in your gut? Is this real or just an excuse to weasel back into your life and vampire on your emotions?

Here’s a short video with a simple meditation that might help you to figure out how to respond to your ex when they contact you out of the blue.

Let your intuition tell you what their true intention is. If you feel that they are truly sorry, then write back and say, “Thanks for writing to me and for saying sorry. I appreciate it. Stay well.”

Keep it short and end the conversation.

Can Ex-Lovers Be Friends?

Can you be friends with your ex? Let me put it in one word.


Absolutely not.

Just don’t do it.

It will never be non-sexual or non-emotional with an ex. You have a history together and you will never be able to pretend that nothing happened between you two. You know things about each other that no one else does. It’s simply too intimate to be just friends.

Even when couples have a mutual breakup, it is never neutral afterwards. One person always desires the other a little more. One person is always sadder about the breakup than the other person. The scales are never ever even again.

This is especially true when one person hurt the other one.

You can try to make it work as friends but don’t be surprised when things get complicated or awkward. You might be setting yourself up for more heartache in the future if you choose to be friends with an ex who hurt you.

People don’t change. If your ex hurt you before, there is a 99% chance that they will hurt you again.

If your ex wants to be friends, just tell them that you have moved on and even though you appreciate the offer, it’s just not going to work for you and you don’t want to be friends.

How Karma Got My Ex Back (True Story)

In my early twenties, I was in a relationship with a guy who was about 10 years older than me. It’s not a huge age gap when someone who is 33 is dating someone who is 43. When a 23-year-old is dating a 33-year old, however, it’s a whole different level.

The older guy was obviously much more established in his career than me. In fact, I had just started working in my first real job. He was so successful at his job and quite rich, or at least that’s the impression he was trying to give everyone with his BMW convertible and fancy loft apartment.

But he didn’t impress me with his money. He knew the secret trick to get a young, slightly insecure girl to like him – just by being nice to her.

He was so nice to me and he was kind. He’d check in on how I was doing with multiple chat messages a day. He’d offer to grab me lunch 2-3 times a week, even if it was a simple sandwich from the corner store.

He made me feel that he was concerned for me and I fell for him.

I’m sure I gave away quite obviously that I liked him and he simply loved being admired.

One day we were out on the beach with a group of friends and obviously because I was in my bathing suit, he finally took notice of me. I hate to say it so crassly, but it’s true. That day, he finally made a move and kissed me.

I was so happy, you can’t imagine it. I was like a little girl who finally got her prince charming. But I was a little bit shocked and sad because he had kissed me when no one else was around and as we made plans to meet later on, it was obvious that he didn’t want anyone to know that we were going to see each other.

Even though I realized that we would have to date in secret, I accepted it because it still felt too good to be true. How could such a gorgeous, successful and older guy like someone as simple, young, and naive as me?

But little did I know, that’s exactly why he wanted me. Because I was so naive.

We dated for 2-3 months until my intuition started dropping clues to me that something was off with this guy.

I had a dream that he was with another mutual friend who also happened to be a lot younger than him. Almost a year later I found out that he had indeed been seeing her at the same time as he was seeing me.

Your intuition is a powerful thing so keep flexing that muscle with meditation.

Once I started getting the feeling that something was off, he must have sensed it because he started distancing himself and eventually broke it off with me.

Here’s how Karma got him back.

In a weird trick of time, it actually happened partially before he was ever with me.

I found out that his ex had left him in a really messy way and there was a child involved.

He also got what he deserved because his best female friend also dumped him later. If you’ve ever had to break up with a friend, you know how painful it is.

It’s been almost 15 years since this happened and as far as I know, he’s still single. I’m not sure because I don’t keep in touch with him anymore. It’s better that way.

I’m sure he’s been cheated on in the meantime and been forced to be in a secret relationship. Everything that he did to me has been done to him – by Karma.

How About You?

So what brought you here to be reading this right now? Were you hurt by an ex and you’re hoping against hope that they will feel a fraction of the pain that they put you through?

Are you thinking about how you could get revenge on your ex? Has your ex contacted you lately? Do you think they feel bad about hurting you? Do they want your forgiveness? Do they want to be friends again?

And what do you want? Would you take them back as a friend? Or even as a lover? Can you forgive them for hurting you?

I’d love to know, so tell me your story in the comments.

You can help another reader by sharing your advice and your questions, so I hope you’ll share.

If you know someone who has been hurt in a relationship, please share this post with them. You could be helping ease someone deep pain.


Ritu is an Atma Kriya Yoga and meditation teacher. A long time blogger and writer, she writes about personal development, spirituality, and meditation.

13 thoughts on “Will Karma Get My Ex For Hurting Me?

  1. Hi am richa, I want to share my personal and bad experiences although need suggestions to come out from these situations,when I was at the age of 17. I was sexually abused by my relatives they both husband and wife tortured me mentally and it was the worst condition of my life .Also this is the secret no one knows and after that I fell in love after 4 years he ditched me left me alone and he married with another girl she died after 1 year again he married again, when I need someone there was no one to heal me it took me 2 years to overcome but unable to forget him totally. I was struggling both in professional as well as personal life I was very alone so that I was searching for a soulmate or gud frnd again I found mean people who hurts me they made emotionally fool they used me after that they left me alone in my hard day’s again I got into depression and this happened several times with me . A few months ago a neighbour he wanted to come close to me I think due to lockdown period he wanted to time pass with me.
    Initially I ignored to talking to him but he showed so much care and how kind hearted he is and try to attracted towards him he also has a relationship but he said it didn’t work I thought it was not going good finally he made promises that he will maintain true frndship with me and never left me alone. Finally we came close to each other, we had sex also but after sometime I realised that he ignored me and showed bzy and when I argue about on this topic he insulted me atlast he told me that whatever he told me about his relationship that was not true his relationship is going well so I realised he made me emotionally fool he wanted to use me and time pass with me he suddenly cut down me from his life and and behaved like a stranger I again ditched in frndship also it is not frndship it’s something else. In the last I want to ask everyone hurt me,insulted me, broke my heart again and again and I have seen all that person enjoyed thier life even they didn’t think what they did to me.why I m suffering from these situations and I never hurt people and ditched someone so why me ? when will they pay for their karma and when my lonliness will over I m broken my trust is broken I hope u will reply as soon as possible I am waiting plz help me…

    1. Dear Richa. First of all, thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly. You made yourself vulnerable here and that is a huge step in your healing. The people who have hurt you will pay for their karma, this is guaranteed. When this will happen, this is the tricky part. Karma has its own schedule and Karma has infinite patience, so it can take anywhere from a couple of days to a couple of years to a couple of decades until They will learn their lesson. Instead of focussing on watching the other people get hurt back because they hurt you, What will help you more is focussing on your healing, and make yourself number one. You are your biggest priority, and all the other people from your past who have hurt you can go to hell. What can you learn from your past experiences? What type of guys are you attracted to who ended up hurting you? Is there a pattern here? If you find a pattern then just avoid this type of people in your future.
      And most of all, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for falling for someone who broke your heart. Forgive yourself for getting involved with your neighbour who ended up just using you. You had no way of knowing that he would do this, so you were innocent. Forgive yourself for making this mistake and acknowledge your innocence. Karma will take care of those guys, you can trust in that. Whether you get to witness it or not this I can’t say but it will happen for sure. It is also possible that you had Karma with these people from past lives that you needed to finish. Now that you have come together and split apart again, maybe the karma is finished and you won’t have to go through this With these souls ever again. Stay strong, believe in yourself, and believe in your innocence.

  2. But one question comes in my mind being ditched again and again I loose my trust and faith on males. I am totally alone in my life. There is no one with whom I can share my feelings and emotions and am fed up with my lonliness. Will I get my soulmate will I trust anyone in my life?? I was totally alone in my life that’s the reason I trust people again and again they ditched me and left me alone it’s is impossible for me to trust again on a guy now I am at the age of 32 when I was at the age of 17, I m spending my life like a hell could you please tell me will my singleness and lonliness end forever or not,I fell in love again with a right guy or not??

    1. Dear Theresa, I’m sorry to hear that your partner has been having an affair for so long. Are you still in shock after finding out? I know a few months have passed now… If there is any advice I can give, please let me know.

  3. I am very heartbroken and I dont think i can ever forgive my ex for what he did to me, sometimes I feel like cursing him and sometimes I try to calm down to let Karma do its own thing, so here’s what happened. I met this Indian guy online on an online game called “avakin”, at first we were friends… he called me “buddy” all the time. When we met, he was trying to contact me all the time so we were basically chatting everyday 24/7. I had no intentions to fall for this guy but as times went by, I was falling for him and I just felt soo happy whenever we talked. Months later he confessed his love for me. I was quite shock because he made it easier for me since I loved him aswell. We did everything together… even though we were in 2 different countries, it didn’t stop us from doing things together. We slept together on the phone, ate together, listened to songs together, watched videos together,kissed and so much more on the phone. The crazy one is that whenever he was sleeping, I would have headphones in just to hear his breath over the call… ik it sounds weird but we both thought it was cute. He did the same for me aswell,when it was time for me to sleep, he would have his headphones in, listening to my breath and give kisses over the phone whenever he heard me move. It was the sweetest thing ever and I was falling harder and harder for this guy. I was soo happy everyday because I had him in my life and I felt like he was the one. His friend even told me the girl in his previous relationship dumped him and married another guy, kinda like she was forced by her parents… which made him lose his mind and he was doing crazy stuff like smoking and all and even tried to kill himself but ever since i came in his life and even though that girl was physically with him, he didn’t feel as close to her like me. And that he would always tell him how much he’s never loved anyone this much before and the friend even told me to never break his heart because he loved me unconditionally…We had the relationship going for 2 years then after those years things started to change. He’s a medical student in India and sometimes he complains about the fact that he is busy and all and gets very tired. But honestly I believe, if you really love someone, you’ll make time for them. But i wasn’t that needy girl and I understood his situation so i was ready to wait if i had to but thing is he started to change.. sometimes he would come online ignoring my messages, ignore me completely and later find an excuse. What made me go crazy was that I saw on his insta that he commented on this girl’s pic with heart eyes emojies and they seemed to knoweach other.. and that totally broke my heart. I confronted him about it and he just said it was just a friend and that I am crazy and all type of things. He yelled at me over the phone, insulted me and all sort of things because I messaged the girl to insult her. I didn’t want to lose him because he was my everything and couldn’t think of a life without him. Again he kept changing, those cute moments we had on the phone was over because he would totally ignore me. I was suspecting he was probably cheating on me with her but I wasn’t sure because he said he didn’t know her like that,, she’s just a friend and right now he doesn’t have the for love or relationships. It hurt me so bad because why make someone fall for u just for you to break their heart at the end.. the girl was still my concern because she was in his college too in India while I am all the way in the USA. I even went behind his back messaging his friends to ask if he had a gf over there and they said no but apparently they told him about it. He got mad at me, wishing me to go to hell, wishing bad things on me and that I was crazy… i had never heard him yell at me like that before, I was heartbroken. Its crazy how people can change so quick. One time we had another argument and even the fact that I was apologizing for going behind him asking his friends, he was yelling at me instead, insulting me once again so and it was like we were arguing pretty much every day so that one argument made me literally burst up in tears while I was at school. I proceeding on to blocking him on whatsapp. It was a very difficult moment because I wanted him so bad but I had to be strong and not make myself look desperate. I would spy on his social medias, see his last seens and all. I kept thinking about him everyday because I wasn’t used to this… no more kisses, cute messages, all the things we used to do together. After some months I unblocked him and wished him happy birthday and he asked if I could be his bestfriend and I said ok. But in my heart I wanted him back but it was obvious that he didn’t love me anymore. Its very difficult seeing him as my friend because of the things we had experienced together as couples in the past. Just last week I even posted on my status that I had stomach ulcer just to see his reaction and to atleast ask me what happened , am I ok and all. All he said was “I told u would get stomach ulcer” . When we were together I wasn’t eating much which is why he said that… but again i had faked it just for him to have pitty or atleast ask me if I’m ok… its been about 5 days now and he hasn’t even texted me to ask about my health. I was heartbroken again because it showed he didn’t care at all. If karma is really real, I want him to suffer the pain I went through with his next girl he gets. All the heartaches, crying all night, starving myself coz I had no appetit at all, distancing my self from family and friends…I was literally going crazy because it was my first real relationship and love and he just broke my heart like that. Even now as I am typing this, I have a heartache… I am wishing on him that he will never be happy with any relationship he gets in because he’ll never find anyone like me again. A girl who is dumb enough like me.. love somone so deep that she forgets about herself. Idk what to do anymore, should I block him and let him go forever? Should I curse him? Should I confront him? I tried so many time to forget about him, move on and hate him but its difficult because I still have those strong feelings for him. I never cheated on him, I never did him wrong… I gave him my heart and he just threw it on the floor like it was nothing and I didn’t mean anything to him. Hes acting like we were never lovers and thats really painfulAnother thing is when I had messaged him to say happy birthday, he told me he always had an eye on me, meaning he was spying on me too through social media so idk if he still has feelings for me because why spy on someone u don’t care about is he trying to pretend to be over me? But anyways sometimes I feel like karma doesn’t work… thanks for reading my story

    1. Hi dear Ky, I can’t agree with you more about this: “But honestly I believe, if you really love someone, you’ll make time for them.”
      If you even care a little bit for someone, you’ll make time for them. Period. That was the first sign that something was off. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I don’t know what to say but it does sound like you had Karma to finish with each other from a past life. I think it’s not over between you two. Something more will happen. Maybe only on your side and only internally, or on his side also internally, but I think this isn’t over. I know you both will find freedom from this experience and the pain in this relationship. It doesn’t feel good when you hurt someone and I’m sure he feels that. Wishing you all the best.

      1. Thank you so much for reading my story and understanding me, I really appreciate this. Even though I wish we could be together, I honestly think this is over because there has been no contact between us for quite some time now…

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