How do you choose a soul mate? This is not an easy thing to do but the question “am I with the right one?” will come up in your life again and again and again till you know or have made the decision. But this question is one of the loudest ones in your head if you are going through a quarterlife crisis. It was for me and it wouldn’t go away till I had made the decision.
It is true that it does come down to a decision to commit because sometimes, your soul mate could be standing right in front of you but you have consciously or subconsciously decided against committing to him. For me, the decision became easy to make after reading the book Autobiography of a Yogi, because the book spoke about the beauty and devotion within a partnership, within a commitment.
The secret to being happy in a relationship and in a partnership is the willingness to look at yourself. If you are trying to “fix him,” you are going to get nowhere. You also have to be honest to yourself about him and not try to hide his flaws. Being open to observe yourself, your reactions to him and also his reactions to you and being honest about what you see is the most important thing.
There are also three questions you can ask yourself. Be completely upfront with your answer and you will be closer to choosing your soul mate. Ask yourself…
- are you with him because he is “good on paper”?
- does being with him, being his partner, his girlfriend and loving him, teach you something about yourself?
- would you be willing to let him go if you had to?
I go deeper into these in this video. Check it out and ask yourself the questions. The best time to take yourself through this process is right bang in the middle of your quarterlife crisis. You wont want to look at it but if you want real answers from yourself, this is a good place to start.
Do you have any questions about these? Do you have anything more you want to know? Is there anything you would add? Let me know in the comments below.