If you’ve ever wondered how to stop cheating on your boyfriend, then you’re not alone. And you’re not a bad person even if you have cheating tendencies. The real cause might be something much deeper than just wanting to cheat.

Maybe you’ve been in a relationship but then someone else came into your life and you started thinking about them a little more than you honestly should be, then be careful! You might have cheating tendencies! But don’t worry. There is hope.

So… cheating. It’s a touchy subject. People don’t want to admit that they are cheaters. But let’s be honest, we are human beings. We have these tendencies within us and they are natural, but that does not mean we have to fall into this trap that our human nature has predisposed us to. Just because we have an instinct, does NOT mean we have to indulge it.

The Three Types of Cheating

There are 3 types of cheating that I will talk about today. 1. Cheating on your partner. 2. Cheating on yourself. 3. Cheating on your spiritual path.

How To Stop Cheating On Your Partner

First let’s talk about cheating on your partner. I’ve been in the place of being cheated on and being the cheater, at least emotionally, and neither spot is a good place to be. It’s pretty awful. If you are in a relationship and you feel like you want to cheat, here’s the number one thing you need to do.

DISTANCE.

DISTANCE YOURSELF

Start to create distance between the guy or girl you are feeling attracted to or falling in love with. Just stop hanging out! Stop texting. Stop Tweeting at him. Stop liking his posts on Facebook. Just stop sending these signals!

Now the chances are that he is feeling something towards you too so he’s going to keep sending those “Likes” your way, and those Tweets, and those texts.

It doesn’t matter.

Your only job at this stage is to create DISTANCE. It’s the ONLY thing that will save you from the disgrace you will feel from cheating.

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How To Stop Cheating On Yourself

The second type of cheating I want to talk about is cheating on yourself. Huh? How can you cheat on yourself?

Here’s what it looks like.

Do you prioritize others over yourself? Do you neglect your self-care and chase after others in your head? Do you spend hours thinking about work, other people, gossip, whatever instead of giving yourself what you really need?

What you really need might be that trip to the salon, or to the gym to your favourite fitness class or sitting your ass down on your meditation pillow and meditating. Giving your mind a break! And giving yourself some love.

Cheating on yourself is when you KNOW you need one thing but you purposely do something else.

How to stop cheating on yourself?

The answer is Love and dedication.

Dedicate that time when you take care of yourself to someone else. Dedicate it to someone you love so much that by being in a better place yourself, you are more able to serve that person.

So, out of love for that person, you lovingly take care of yourself as well.

Dedicate it to the one you love

For example, if you’ve been going crazy in your head thinking about work and bitchy girlfriends or grumpy people at work that you have neglected taking care of yourself. Your hair looks like a mess and your nails are chipped.

But let’s say you have a boyfriend who you love so much and being in a good place mentally and emotionally makes you a more pleasant partner and makes you stronger to take care him and your relationship. So out of your love for him and out of love for your relationship, you take yourself to the salon, you get your hair done and your nails done, you elevate your own mood and you are a bundle of joy when you hang out with your man instead of being a mess.

In short, to stop cheating on yourself, take care of yourself.

How To Stop Cheating On Your Spiritual Path

The third kind of cheating I want to talk about is on your spiritual path and on your Guru. If you find yourself that you are hopping around from one spiritual path to another, from one meditation style to another and from one spiritual teacher to another, then your cheating tendencies in your others areas of life, like in your romantic relationships and on yourself will affect your spiritual path as well.

If you are not used to 100% commitment, loyalty and faithfulness towards a relationship and towards yourself, then it’s natural that you will have the same tendency towards spirituality.

How to stop cheating on your spiritual path is actually inclusion and not exclusion. It is actually about staying openminded instead of closing yourself off to others.

But most importantly, it is trusting in your heart and trusting in your experiences.

Trust & leap of faith

If you have ever felt something, if you have been moved into changing through an experience, then trust that. Trust that what you felt is real. And when you find something that feels so real, hang onto it! Be loyal! Be faithful. Be kind.

Practice distance from the next shiny object that comes your way and tries to distract you. Take care of yourself so that you are better capable of serving on your spiritual path.

Cheating Is Normal, But…

Cheating is one of those things that are a part of our human nature. But I know you are a good person, you have a good heart and underneath everything, you are so pure. And you can stop cheating. I believe in you.

Lots of love,

Ritu

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If you’ve kept up with my secret little updates on Instagram, you might know that I have a new name now. It is Ananga Manjari Dasi! That’s my spiritual name given to me by my Guru, Sri Swami Vishwananda.

That name inspired me to make this vlog on service because “Dasi” means service.

How do you define service? How important is it to you to be of service to others? Do you think that it is something that’s needed in your workplace? How can you improve your situation with service?

I’d love to know, so comment below and let me know!

Love,

Ritu

February is a much better month than January, isn’t it? By now, you have recovered from the extreme eating of the Christmas season, the big partying of NYE and getting over the January blues.

February is much more optimistic. It’s the month that celebrates love. That can be a little scary and my heart is beating a little faster right now as I type this. Valentine’s Day brings up so many feelings in us, and seeing other couples make a big fuss over it can trigger us in so many ways. But there are two things that will help you if you start to get “the feels.”

How to love yourself on Valentine’s Day even when no one believes in you or your dreams

Number one: Have faith like Saint Valentine did, you know the saint who inspired the whole lovefest in the first place? He had so much faith that he was imprisoned for it. He didn’t care what they did to him, he continued to have faith and even performed miracles while imprisoned.

Have faith like him. Have faith in yourself and in your dreams. Even if they try to laugh at you or “imprison” you in their negativity, forget them and continue to have faith in yourself. You can do it, and your dreams will come true. #Fact.

Number two: Have faith in them. This is the hard part. How can you make yourself believe that the people who are being mean to you because they don’t understand your dreams are worthy of your love?

the f word is for faith

Well, that’s where the F-word comes in again. Have faith in them that one day they will get you. One day they will understand you so well because they will be in the exact place where you are now.

And love them anyway.

With all my love,

Ritu

I just completely changed the template of my site from a fancy expensive theme from my favourite guilty pleasure website, Themeforest, to this free one that you see here now.

It felt like it was time to shed my old colours. It felt like it was time to let go of all the fancy flora and fauna of my previous website theme and reveal the bare branches underneath. If this site, this blog can still hold its own, then I will be happy.

Fall is funny season because it makes you stand with one foot in Summer and one foot in Winter. No wonder you are feeling pulled in two directions! I know I am.

simple

The biggest transition that I’m going through is moving away from high production blogs to simpler ones where the words do the talking, instead of fancy website.

These three blogs specifically impacted my decision to strip down and go bare with my blog theme:

An honourable mention should also go to Alexandra Franzen because she was on the Simple train nearly a year ahead of me but it took me a while to stop being bitter about her downgrading because I missed her old site.

From these four incredible blogs above, you’ll see how simplicity rocks. OK, Gala’s site is very pretty, but her words do all the heavy lifting and honestly, I would read her blog even if it had no pictures in it at all.

Why I downgraded my blog template

The two months, as summer transitioned into Fall, it was like there was a fog around me and I felt blocked from my writing. My friends noticed this in their own work as well. The transition period was far from smooth for many of us.

Also, you know how sometimes getting new stationary just makes you want to write more, that’s the feeling I wanted with my blog. The template of the blog is my new stationary and seeing the words in a new layout finally makes me want to write more.

Now are you inspired to strip it down too? I double dare you!

What’s your favourite “simple” blog that you read and why? Share the link in the comments below!

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Images: From Unsplash

Female Entrepreneurs, do you want to know how to keep your sanity? Yes… no?

When you run your own business and try to have a life as well, and it can be stressful and sometimes you feel like you are losing your mind! And when you work for yourself, you even feel like you are losing your life! It’s not easy to stay motivated and inspired an positive all the time.

But when you are your own boss, who do you even go complain to? Right?

I know how that feels and I’ve struggled with it too, believe me and the only way I have been able to sustain myself and keep giving my business the love and devotion and positivity that it deserves is through my secret tool, which I talk about in this video.

 

Simple.

That’s it.

That’s my biggest most valuable tool. And I firmly believe that every female entrepreneur NEEDS to have this tool as well. It is essential to your business and most of all, to yourself to maintain your sanity through the awesome but crazy journey that is entrepreneurship.

So, I want to invite you to get this tool and add it to your essential toolkit as a successful female entrepreneur. I invite you to do a 5 day meditation challenge with me.

CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE CHALLENGE

You will receive a video each day for 5 days. All you have to do is follow along and practice with me and then just practice once a day on your own before you fall asleep. That’s it.

Your meditation practice will be the one secret thing in your toolkit that is an essential part of your entrepreneur lifestyle.

I’m so excited about this! I’ll see you tomorrow with day 1 of the 5 day meditation challenge!

CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE CHALLENGE

Lots of love,

Ritu

Ps. Leave a comment below if you have a secret tool as well that really works. We need more magic tricks up our sleeves.

You must have heard about the newest thing in timepieces right? No, it’s not an iPhone.

It’s the wooden watch.

A watch made of wood, from the strap to the digits, as much wood as a wristwatch can have.

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Why Would You Want a Wooden Watch?

If you answer yes to any of these questions, then a wooden watch might be for you.

  • Do you like to stand out?
  • Do you want to be memorable and make an impression?
  • Do you like sustainability?

Wooden watches are still uncommon and wearing one will instantly attract attention. For example, the other night I was out celebrating my friend’s engagement and two people commented on my JORD wooden watch.

I’m pretty sure that the watch and its wearer will be remembered.

And as a bonus, wood is totally sustainable and the wooden watches promote sustainability and eco responsibility. Not only do you end up looking good, but you end up doing good too.

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How Are Wooden Watches Made?

All parts of a watch that can be made out of wood will be made of wood. This includes all the links in the strap, the back of the timepiece, the part that touches your skin, the face of the watch, and the digits in some cases.

The workmanship on these wooden watches are incredible! The detailed work, the polish, the feel of it and just the fact that it works really well despite being made of wood just amazes me.

The wooden pieces are held together with tiny metal pins and screws but the metal is not really visible.

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My Honest Review

The watch featured here is the Ely watch in Maple, by JORD. The smoothness of all the wood is so attractive. I just want to touch it all time. There are little details all over it, like the logo being engraved on the dial’s face. The logo is also lazered onto the back of the watch, the part that touches your skin.

The clasp is made of stainless steel and the watch is very comfortable on your wrist. It is important to have it sized properly though so make sure you do that.

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I made my first ever unboxing video with this watch! Check it out here.


Who I’d Recommend This To

If you are into alternative fashion and style that is innovative, you would love this watch. As I mentioned before, it’s a great conversation starter. Just try it out in a situation where you’ll be interacting with a lot of people and observe, like at a networking event or at a party.

Fellas, this is a great gift for your lady friends as well. And ladies, there is a huge range of wooden watches for men available online, by JORD and also by some other brands.

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So, would YOU ever wear a wooden watch? Why and what attracts you to this type of watch? Share in the comments below, I’ll read each one and I’m sure it will help out a lot of other people looking for feedback and reviews on wooden watches as well.

Love you!

Ritu


Mens Wood Watches
  Full disclosure: I was sent a watch by JORD to review. All opinions are my own. Best Wooden Watch

Happy Mother’s Day!!! It’s a day filled with a lot of love and I hope you are feeling the love vibes and getting all gooshy and teary, like me. My spiritual teacher, Sri Swami Vishwananda says, “You can’t attain the Divine if you can’t be grateful to your mother.” Mothers are such givers. They are constantly giving.

Like for example, I’ll tell you about my Mother’s Day gift this year. I couldn’t give my Mum a gift but for the first time in 18 years, I get to spend the day with her, like physically being in the same place. Even though I couldn’t give her anything this year, she has given ME the biggest present ever by making this possible.

That’s how Moms are, they are constantly giving. Mother Earth is another example. Giving, giving, giving and we are just taking, taking, taking.

I have a Mother’s Day challenge for you this year

This year, can you pick a day when you will prioritize her? When she asks for something, will you say yes, no matter what you have to give up for it?

Make the sacrifice of your own desire to make your Mum happy. It’s going to be hard and your Ego really wont like it, but Karmically, you will get lots of points for it.

Love,

Ritu

My mom of me in Cuba.

3 steps to Happiness

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The founder of the Hale Clinic, who is also my Atma Kriya Yoga teacher, Teresa said this to me once, and I take it as 3 simple steps to happiness.

  1. Surrender
  2. Trust
  3. Ask for Grace

She said – when working towards something, do your best and then surrender the result to the divine or to love, spirit, god whatever you relate to more.

Trust that there is a spiritual masterplan in place and the outcome should be just as it is meant to be, even if it makes no sense to you now.

And always ask for Grace. Ask for Grace to help you to surrender. Ask for Grace to help you to love more and to open your heart.

Originally posted on my London blog.

My spiritual teacher, my Guruji, Sri Swami Vishwananda said this amazing thing on Twitter today. I feel like he read my mind, even though he is in South Africa at the moment, because I needed to hear this exact thing today. I’ve had one of those days when you just wake up sad and even though everything in life is just as it should be, there is a sense of loss that you just can’t shake. I’ll tell you the story why.

Crossroads in your career

I’m at a crossroads in my career. For 7 years, I have had a super exciting career in online advertising. My job took me to NYC and London for work and all the adventures that resulted from living in those cities were made possible by my job. At the same time, I’m asking myself whether this career is the best use of my unique gifts and talents.

To paint you a picture of this “crossroads” get this; last night I stayed up till 1am, madly reading articles about marketing analytics, sales conversions and business success stories. Then I finally peeled myself away from the screen, and still had to get ready for bed and do my daily meditation so I didn’t hit the pillow till 2am.

This is not normal.

Just at this moment of crisis, I check my Guruji’s Twitter and this is what he says.

“If 1 cannot #utilize whatever 1 have receive from #God in a proper way which he have #bless with his #grace, then why does 1 search for that which 1 think he haven’t given to all, the lord create this #universe as an expansion of his love n grace upon all ,he created the elements 4 all of us he have given us this #body ,hand, feet ,mouth, eyes ect the #intellect n the #mind n the #power 2 #discriminate all is only his due 2 his #Grace n #Mercy he half of all of us be #grateful n use all in a #proper way like that 1 will have the #divine #knowledge which is ever present in this #physical #body into which all his #cosmic #Leela is #possible at all #time 1 who have the no urge for #seeking the #real #truth is as good as being #dead, 1 can find ever #lasting #peace n #supreme #satisfaction only in God nothing’s else,those who had spend their life in #doing things which is others than #finding #God #realize when it too late in life that they have been #climbing the wrong tree , the #earlier 1 turn toward #spirituality n #seek the #Love n #Grace of #God the more #blissful 1 become in #life”

Using your unique gifts and talents in your life’s mission

There are so many incredible things you can do in your life and you SHOULD do to make sure you are using your natural gifts and talents to the max value. I mean, that’s what Marie Forleo is always preaching, right? “The world needs that special something only you have.”

Marie is right.

And so is my Guruji.

He is right that until we use our gifts and talents to REALIZE our SELVES, all our efforts will feel empty. At least, it feels like that for me and I can only speak from experience.

Let’s not waste time. Let’s go full steam, will our all, towards the one thing we want most, whatever it is for each of us.

Love,

Ritu

Image Source: Guruji’s FB page