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Dealing with Haters AKA Wrestling with Pigs – A Quote from Alan Kay


Someone who I highly respect as a mentor and coach sent me an article he wrote on dealing with “haters”. As I mentioned in my blog post about Digesting Criticism, I am encountering a common step in the business building process which is criticism (not always constructive) and unsolicited opinions from people who project doubt rather than support. So, during the coaching process, Alan helped me to refocus and transform these stressful experiences and find inspiration, learning and a business strategy inside of them. Talk about alchemy!

Read his article here to find out the words of wisdom he shared with me and to learn how to turn criticism into business advice.


  • Alan Kay says:

    I can’t lay claim to the line about wrestling with a pig, but it sure helps reframe our urge to dive in when we feel under threat.
    Another related, perhaps kinder version is; never try to teach a pig to sing – you get frustrated, and you also irritate the pig.

  • Joanna says:

    Who would expect that a meditation teacher could also attract “pigs” who want to wrestle ๐Ÿ™‚ I just shared alan’s article on my fb page – i think we need that reference when we face a critic. If not for anything else but to wake up the imagination …

    • Ritu Ashrafi says:

      Hey Joanna, right? Who would think that?? But that’s the thing, the more we let ourselves shine, the more those aren’t ready to shine yet try to block our us out. Bizarre human behaviour! Thanks for sharing it ๐Ÿ™‚

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