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How can someone you thought was your soulmate turn out to be the worst person in your life? When relationships start like they were made in heaven but then go sour, this is a sign that they are Karmic relationships.

And when things go bad, you must be asking yourself, “How can I get out of this? How can I end this relationship?”

When it comes to Karmic relationships, it’s not about ending the relationship. It’s about ending the Karma. To end Karmic relationships, you have to pay back your Karmic debt to the other person and/or learn whatever lesson you were supposed to learn from that relationship. Once that’s done, you are free.

Do you want to end a Karmic relationship quickly? If yes, I have good news for you. Just look back at your relationship to see how you’ve already repaid your Karmic debt.

Have you had some hard times? Have you felt some pain and suffering in this relationship? Have you come to a big realization, for example, the fact that you are tired of being mistreated by your partner? Or that you will never let someone talk to you so disrespectfully again?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, the good news is that you have already started paying back your Karmic debt.

It’s not so easy to know when you’re almost finished paying back your Karmic debt because you don’t know just how much Karma you have with your partner. But there is one sign that will tell you that you’re almost at the end of this relationship.

When you start to genuinely pray for freedom from the relationship, you will know that you’re almost at the end. The more sincere your prayer is, the quicker it will happen. This is because when you sincerely pray from your heart, the Universe listens and creates more opportunities for the Karma to get burnt away.

Once all the Karma between you two is burned away, you both can be free from the relationship.

One of the best books that helped me understand how Karma works and to spot the signs that I was successfully burning my Karma is Marjan Ogorovich’s Karmic Diagnostics. It’s a rare book and I paid over $50 for a paperback version but I just found out that the book is now available as an ebook on Amazon Kindle for $10.63 (this is an affiliate link and I may earn a small commission if you buy the book). I highly recommend reading it to find the best way to know your Karmic history with someone and how to end these difficult Karmic relationships.

I’ll talk about the top 3 proven ways to burn Karma super fast that have worked for me further down in this post. First, let me share some more direct ways to take control of a relationship that is hurting you.

Power Phrases To Use To End Painful Karmic Relationships

Let me assume that you want to end a relationship because it’s causing you pain. And you know it’s Karmic because the other person in the relationship is a family member, your romantic partner, a difficult boss, or an old friend.


When someone you’re in a relationship with hurts you consciously or unconsciously and you realize what’s happening, you have to say out loud and with force: “Enough!”

Let me give you an example. Once, my husband and I were fighting about my spending habits. He thought I spent too much money on chocolate (true story). This was probably his worry about our financial situation at the time but regardless of the reason, we had spent more than 15 minutes discussing this and arguing about this. Finally, I just had to say, “Enough! I am responsible for my spending habits, not you. Stop lecturing me about this right now.”

The force of my statement made him go quiet. He realized that he had crossed the line and we stopped talking. After an hour or so, he came with a pack of Malteasers that he went out and bought for me and said sorry.

“Stop now!”

When you don’t like how someone is treating you or the way someone is talking to you and you want it to stop it right away, you need to say this with force: “Stop now!”

Say it as soon into the conversation as you can.

As soon as you realize that the other person is attacking you or picking on you, say “Stop now!” with force. You won’t even need to explain yourself because it will shake them into understanding that they were being mean to you.

Some people react in a petty defensive way when you stand up for yourself like this by starting to cry or pretend that you attacked them unfairly. Don’t let this stop you from using this power phrase.

For example, kids do this all the time. When they get yelled at for doing something naughty, they pretend that they are the victim and start to cry. But they also intuitively know that they did something wrong and got called out for it. After crying for a little while, they’ll calm down and go back to normal.

When your partner is speaking to you in a way that you don’t like, tell them to stop. If this scares you, pretend you are telling a kid off for doing something he or she isn’t supposed to do.

Power Phrase: “You Are Not Allowed To Treat Me That Way!”

Sometimes people think that they are allowed to mistreat others and hurt them. They think that this is normal. In these cases you must remind them that they are not allowed to treat you that way.

When someone you’re in a relationship with hurts you unfairly or without a legitimate reason, say to them with force: “You are not allowed to treat me that way.”

If they persist, then make a stronger statement and say: “You WILL NOT treat me that way!”

You are the one who decides how you will be treated in a loving relationship. Demand the respect that you want. Set the tone of how you want to be spoken to.

There is always a power game in relationships, and this is especially true in Karmic relationships. It shouldn’t be about having power over your partner or overpowering them when it comes to making decisions. It should be about EM-powering yourself and taking control of how you are treated in the relationship.

When you start to use power phrases like this with your partner, you are creating more opportunities for the Karma between you to finish.

By taking your power in a relationship back, you are taking responsibility for your Karma and becoming stronger in the process.

This causes a chain reaction and if your Karmic relationship is supposed to end, it will end even sooner. If it is meant to be healed, your Karmic relationship will be healed sooner.

The Best Thing To Resolve Conflict In A Karmic Relationship That No One Ever Does

Anytime someone attacks you emotionally, or even physically, it is more about them than you. This is particularly true in romantic relationships.

For example, your boyfriend got yelled at by his boss at work and he started a fight with you as soon as he got home. Or your wife had a fight with her mom and started nitpicking on your and criticizing you unfairly. Or you are worried about your money situation and you start picking on your wife for her spending habits.

You may not know what the underlying reason for your partner’s hurtful behaviour toward you is and you are not responsible to fix it. But you are allowed to say this power phrase to your partner:

“If you are angry and sad about something, do something about it! Don’t take it out on me. I don’t deserve that.”

This comes back to the power struggle in every relationship. When you say this to your partner, you empower him or her to take their power back from whatever negative experience they had. When they realize that they have the power over how to react to their own negative experience, they won’t feel the need to take it out on you.

When you help them realize that something else is hurting them, then they realize that they need to process that pain. By doing this, you are making sure that they don’t turn you into a punching bag to release their emotions.

Bonus power phrase: “I love you but that does not give you the right to be mean to me.”

This phrase bring back the memory of Eminem’s song “Love The Way You Lie”, at least the music video.

This is the kind of relationship you don’t want to have. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you will tolerate being disrespected and being hurt. Loving someone doesn’t mean giving them the right to walk all over you.

When you can tell that your partner is crossing the line and hurting you unnecessarily, call them out on it. Say to them with power in your voice and strength in your eyes: “I love you but that does not give you the right to be mean to me.”

They will stop dead in their tracks because of one thing. You just placed a mirror in front of them and showed them that they are simply being mean to you. If they care about you, then they will stop right away after they see this.

How To End A Karmic Relationship By Burning Your Karma Fast

As I mentioned above, it’s about ending the Karma and not the relationship. It’s possible that a “toxic” relationship becomes harmonious again after all the bad Karma is burned off.

It is also possible that a relationship ends very easily and peacefully after the Karma between both people is finished.

I’ll say it again: It’s about ending the Karma, not the relationship.

How do you finish all your Karma with somebody so you can quickly end the relationship? These are my top 3 ways to burn through Karma quickly.

Live Life Fully

Dive into life and embrace all new experiences. Try to enjoy the little things in life with your partner despite the fact that you are having difficulties in your relationship.

The more cool experiences you share together, the more opportunities you will have for working out your Karma together. If they are pleasant experiences, then you will see that there is still love and hope in the relationship. If they are bad experiences, then you will know that it’s time to walk away.

It is just as important to have unique experiences on your own. You need time to yourself, away from your partner, to process how you feel about your partner. When you’re away from him, do you miss him? Are you happy to be on your own and are wishing that you didn’t have to see him later? Or are you happy alone but still looking forward to being together again?

You wouldn’t get a chance to feel these feelings if you are together 24/7. Take some time apart to let your true feelings come to the surface.

Don’t Avoid Confrontation

If you’re like me, you hate confrontation. I’d rather be on the losing end of a deal than get into a difficult negotiation.

When it comes to relationships though, you can’t avoid confrontation because it will just keep eating at you from the inside.

Until you share with your partner how he hurt you, the pain will keep spreading inside you like acid and burning you from the inside. It will turn toxic and you’ll hurt yourself and your partner way more than if you just shared with him what’s bothering you right away.

You also have to be willing to listen to your partner when he tells you that you have hurt him. It goes both ways.

Yes, it’s embarrassing to realize that you’ve hurt your partner deeply. But you won’t be able to heal your relationship if you are completely unaware of how you are damaging it.

Burn Karma Through Meditation

The one place where I learn most about myself is when I’m sitting down to meditate. This whole blog started because I finally learned to meditate. It also helped me to get out of the biggest depression I went through in my mid-twenties.

It’s a fact that meditation, specifically certain kinds of meditation like Atma Kriya Yoga burn your Karma. How does it do that? Well, there’s the fact that you are sitting in silence and finally looking at yourself.

When you examine yourself and your experiences, you can learn from it. The more you learn, the more Karma gets burned away, and the closer you get to becoming free.

If you have bad Karma from breaking someone’s heart, the easiest way to get rid of the Karma is by saying sorry in your heart. I created a guided meditation where I take you into a meditative state, where you will come face-to-face with your ex and communicate with him/her. This is the best way I have experienced to feel relieved from this burden that you have been carrying around for so long. Get it here.

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How Did You End Your Karmic Relationship?

Now I want to hear from you. Have you ever had to end a Karmic Relationship? How did you do it? Is there something you can share in the comments that will help the next reader?

Do you have any questions about how your Karma is affected after breaking someone’s heart? Or have you wondered whether Karma will get your ex back for breaking your heart? I’d love to know so comment below.


  • Pinku says:

    Hey ritu I loved a guy unconditional I treated him like a baby though he was rude without feeling emotions I changed him and made a lover boy now he broke my heart and getting married to another girl this year as am intercaste his family accepted me first and later broke my heart by rejecting me the girl which he is marrying now loves him more what about me who I loved him he didn’t think about me what karma do he get for doing this to me

  • Vikasit_vikas says:

    Thank you for helping us out in our dark times , and massive respect for sharing your personal story , I can see how enlightened you are that you realised the consequences of your past actions. I’m 30 years old and just got betrayed in my 7 year old relation. For past 7 years my only aim was to make her feel special, to help her in achieving her goals. And forgot that I too have a life of my own , she after achieving her career goals broke all contacts with me , without even giving me any reason. I finally contacted her somehow and for the first time in 7 years she was rude to me, she rudely said that she is looking for someone else now and currently seeing two other guys. I trusted her way too much , loved her unconditionally despite of her looks , she was the most beautiful girl for me coz I loved her. This betrayal shattered me , broked me , and now I won’t be able to trust anyone in this world. Later in the process of grief and depression I did what every one is supposed to do at these times. I turned to spirituality. And now in a way I can see how this break up helped me to find a path for a greater goal. I’m still trying to forgive her and get out of it . And one day I will.

    • jerryc83 says:

      I kind of feel the same. You seem like a good person. I hope we find peace one day and move forward.

  • Amber Gutierrez says:

    My ex is dating his mom’s friend now who he always said was just old and his “mom’s friend”. He’d slept with her as a second rebound after me, it shattered me. He’d told me many lies even before that to hurt me so this one just topped the cake for me. I don’t know how or why this dragged on for so long but my love for him was genuine and still is even though I know he didn’t care about lying to me. I still wonder why he did what he did but the truth is he still loves her and I hate him for doing what he did to me. Blaming it all on my violent reactions but never for his lies. Or insensitive behavior.

    • Ritu says:

      Hi Amber, I put it in my other comment to you that you are innocent in the situation. Stop blaming yourself. What happened is not fair, and it’s OK to call it what it is. Yes it is a karmic situation, and gave you a chance to burn a lot of your karma. Look at what you can learn from the situation, like the kind of man you never ever want to be with again, and the kind of behaviour you will never tolerate again.

    • Julia says:

      Bless you, you need to heal your violent reactions for your future karma.

  • Pamela says:

    Ritu I like to know why do I pay for the karma and my ex done the same thing? And who pays for his karma? I apologized repented to God. And it’s like he trying to make me pay for the hurt the sent me through do he ever pay for what he sent me through it looks like I’m just paying not him. And he keep throwing my past and what he did it’s ok

    • Ritu says:

      Dear Pamela, you can bet that he will pay and he is paying in a hidden way that you don’t see yet. I know you’re still in pain and that won’t go away just because he will pay for his karma. For upper pain to go away you have to heal your self and process the feelings and get STRONGER from this experience. Then soon you’re strength will be bigger than your pain and you’ll forget it and him for good.

  • AngelWarrior says:

    Hi Ritu, I met my twin flame/soulmate 8 months ago. At first everything seemed so wonderful, but then with 6 weeks everything went sideways. She is going through a past incident that happened to her and she admits she needs to get closure from it. Truthfully I don’t think getting her getting closures form the past incident will help with of Karma. I understand that she has this issue but the disrespect and the pain has finally got me to want to just put her behind me. But of course I don’t want to. I feel the energy connection between us and I feel and have seen the real her. I want to try to rid the ic the bad karma and only have the good karma. We share the same birthday but are years apart in age, but we also share the same life #7 as well. Are there any crystals, candles, oils, etc. that can help? I have cut our energy tie but still trying to help her with finding the closures she truly seeks.

    • Ritu says:

      If you think she’s your soulmate then give it another chance. You can be there for her even if not as her partner (even though I haven’t had any luck staying friends with an ex). It sounds like you still have karma with each other good or bad. That’s why it’s so hard to cut ties with her. There’s still unfinished business here.
      How to speed up your karma so you can both be free?
      That’s what you have to work on now. This post has some ideas you can try out:

      • jerryc83 says:

        This is me. I feel one day she’ll come back due to unfinished business and we can love each other again. Thanks Ritu, you’re a lifesaver.

  • Amara says:

    Hi. Due to some reasons that I felt absent from my relationship I left my boyfriend and got in a very beautiful unexpected relationship. We shared great understanding. Our families knew about us and we were planning to get married. I am 26 years old and this is currently going on. I am still staying with his family. It’s been a year since lockdown. Due to his casual habits he got in contact with American international flight attendant. Impressed by her gifts and love she showed h now they both are planning to get married and its all happening infront of me. I love him so purely. Is this my punishment for leaving that first guy? And if this is in exchange for that will this present person undergo such pain.

    • Ritu says:

      Hi Amara, thanks for sharing your story. It sounds quite painful. Yes, it is partially connected to how you left your first guy. This gives you an opportunity to put yourself in your new guy’s shoes. He might be feeling absent as well. DON’T JUDGE YOURSELF for leaving the first guy the way you did. That’s simply what was right for you at the time. When you stop judging yourself for your past action, the current pain will become much lighter and you will find a new way.

  • Sarah Cresswell says:

    I’m just confused. I always thought my partner was my twin but now realising it was probably karmic. For 7 years I adored this man. Loved him with everything I had. Still do. It was a rough 7 years… one sided…abusive and draining. He hurt me so much. Made me a person I didnt like nor recognise.
    What confuses me is the end though. He killed himself…. and I’m left wondering who was the lesson?? Was I here to clear his karma or him to clear mine?
    Obviously the cycle has ended as he can’t come back now.
    I’m so confused as to what I am supposed to learn from the drastic ending of it all…….

    • Ritu says:

      Hi Sarah, this sounds extremely traumatic. I hope you are OK and have a support group you can go to. It’s not your job to clear his Karma. That’s his job. You were together because you had karma together, that’s the simple answer. Is the karma between you two over? I don’t know how peaceful you were together before he was gone so I can’t answer that. You’re right that the cycle has ended. You can still heal your relationship by doing the SAY SORRY IN YOUR HEART meditation in my free download. Have you tried it?

  • Laura says:

    I have a karmic relationship I think!
    Sometimes my mind is busy and Idk why
    But when I see him everything’s will pass away . And I don’t want to end this relationship I just wanna end this cycle
    But he insisted that ending our relationship will end this cycle
    Please help , I really love him and I searched many hours ,I need somebody to tell me what I have to do to end this relationship,it’s like sometimes something that happened to me happening to him too !
    Please help I’m miserable

    • Ritu says:

      Hi Laura, it’s difficult to answer you without more background info. You can end the cycle without ending the relationship. The key is to make some changes in yourself. Stop tolerating disrespect from him. Stand up to him. See how he reacts. Just try it. It will lead to your karma together finishing much quicker and then you will see if the relationship lasts with the new strong you or not.

  • Anon says:

    Hey , Ritu I am very confused right now I recently met this guy a year ago which will be next month. We were long distance at first. I wasn’t taking him serious because I wasn’t interested in a relationship with him at all then we had this connection and bond I would get spirit messages about him ( a masculine voice would tell me when I went into a trance that we were soulmate and lovers and I need to take him serious )and I would think about him while shuffling my tarot cards I would get tarot cards talking about we are soulmates and etc etc. Then something happened and he moved in with me everything was great except he would hurt my feelings and not talk to me and cheat , but I can feel the love he is changing my I got a astrology synastry and it says we have a minor soulmate connection and that we are karmic and I am here to help him transform himself. But I always got intuitively that this is a karmic cycle and not a karmic relationship so I am not sure. I can not imagine me being with anyone else.

  • carolina says:

    I had a karmic relationship that ended last summer and we kept in touch throughout until recently. I was the attached and he was the avoidant. It’s been the most difficult relationship to move on from. We had an extremely turbulent experience together and ever since I’ve been single, I’ve done so much for myself to learn and grow but I still cannot move on. I don’t know what else to do. I have immersed myself into new hobbies, read more, focused on my health and yet I still feel so attached to him. I have recently learned about shadow work and I’ve been doing that as well. I just get so emotional wondering when this is going to end. I have never experienced this sort of an attachment with someone. Any advice would be so appreciated. Thank you

  • Tamanna sareen says:

    Hi I recently get to knw about it that I m in karmic recently nd I wanted to settle down everything with my partner nd wanted to run a perfect relationship with him …. how can I do that

  • Tej says:

    Hi Ritu, I got into my first relationship at the age of 18 with my then bestfriend because I didn’t want to lose him I said yes to be in the relationship however it got suffocating so I kept breaking up with him, eventually he cheated on me and I left him. Still it went on for few months on and off and finally I left him and in the process hurt my another bestfriend who genuinely like me. Next I loved a guy who eventually cheated on me for a year and after that I went from one guy to another through temporary relationships. Until last year when I met a guy and decided it’s enough I want to settle down. He too agreed he wants to marry but later on we had to break up because he said he has brain tumor. However I soon found out that he lied the entire relationship, he never wanted to marry, seems he just wanted to sleep, I’m not sure what’s the hidden truth is because he faked the entire relationship so extremely well that it’s still hard for me to digest whatever has happened. I want to know that by going through all these relationships did I accumulate a lot of bad Karma? I already suffered for so many years of no permanent love and now this major suffering. Is this not enough? And what about my ex who lied and has hurt me so bad? I want to let this go and make peace with my bad karma from the past but I’m not able to digest whatever lies he told me, my life has fallen apart infront of me. And in his life, he is prospering like anything. Isn’t it unfair.

    • Ritu says:

      I know it’s not easy, but you have to find ways to enjoy yourself and enjoy your life. That’s the best revenge you can take. And it will help you to see that you’ve already burnt a lot of the karma you had with the guy and you can be free from him so quickly. Also it might seem like he’s prospering from the outside, but he could be suffering inwardly.

  • Trupti says:

    Hey Ritu,
    In my relationship, I feel hurt because of my own thinking or overthinking.
    Just while having a normal talk, i suddenly react for something and take it to such a level that we both start saying good bye.. but again come back together in few minutes.
    Later I also realise that it was no something to react so much for!
    Also I always have a feeling of getting disappointed for every small thing in relationship. I keep feeling and comparing my relationship with others n feel bad that, why m I not getting care like others or pampering like others.
    Please guide me about this situation.

    • Ritu says:

      I have been in your shoes before where I felt terrible that I wasn’t being pampered by my bf the way my other friends were by their partners. It took me a long time to see that my bf treated me in a special way that my other friends just didn’t get from their partners. What I had was special in its own way. Once you realize the uniqueness of your relationship, this feeling goes away.
      In terms of overreacting, yes, I’ve had that too and still deal with it. What’s happening is that something your bf says or does TRIGGERS you. The only way to get over this is by examining yourself and finding out your triggers. Then even if you overreact, you’ll see exactly what trigger your bf hit to make you react that way. Then you’ll get faster at recognizing this and it won’t escalate so much in the future.

  • TY says:

    Thank you for your article. I’ve had an inkling my current 7 year relationship was karmic but never wanted to believe it. However our breakup/ make-up cycles are evident it is. We have always tried to pull away from eachother even to the extent of being with other people yet we’re still drawn back to eachother and nobody compares to what we had. It has been abusive and toxic yet we search for the silver lining. We don’t know why we continue to be pulled back to one another but neither of us are happy in the relationship. We have gone to the extent of moving cities and even country’s to be apart and yet we hold on. Is it possible to have a healthy and happy union together ?

    • Ritu says:

      It sounds like there’s a lot of karma between the two of you. You have to burn your karma as quickly as you can otherwise you will keep circling back to each other. Start meditating. Don’t avoid confrontation with each other, because it helps you bring up your stuff to the surface and speed up your karma. And find new things in your life that make you happy. This will help you cut the ties between each other when you can be happy on your own

  • Audrey says:

    I worked with a guy for a few years. Then he became the Manager. We kinda liked each other and spent many great times together, as in work. This grew into attraction. He made the first step at work where he would kiss me good morning and goodbye on the cheek. I just thought this was the way he showed affection. He was caring. He had separated from his wife, had been on his own for a short time and then I heard a girlfriend who lived in the same town moved in with him. They knew each other for a long time. She had 2 failed marriages. She has a jealous nature, the relationship is toxic, she has grown children who live with them. She is very controlling and I can see she controls him and he is gutless to do anything about it. So I feel even though he and I have spent a great times together and were very intimate, he says many nice things to me. I feel I am a convenience though he does make an effort to see me. He tells me I am not a convenience and not to think that. Because of her controlling power, he resigned from the job as she does not leave him alone. She came to work to see me because she sensed something happening with him and I and she told me to not have any contact with him at all. She doesn’t know me at all, and said many hurtful things. I still like him but its been 2 weeks now and have not heard from him. He has said he will come and see me but to be quite for now and let this all die down for his partner, who watches his every move like a hawk. Because he is not the type of person who is nasty, he let’s her rule him. I can’t stop thinking of him and am hopeful he will come and see me still as he said. We enjoy each other’s company. We have endless conversations and have fun. Its just always too short then he has to go. I kinda feel he is my soulmate because its like magic being together. He says his relationship with her is complex and I am unsure if he is going to leave her. She has got into his head. I feel hurt and know I must move on.

    • Ritu says:

      If you’re not getting the respect you deserve from this guy, then yes, you’re right. It’s time to move on. You deserve better and a less complicated person who adores you and not just keeps you around as a side dish.

  • Guneet says:

    Hi Ritu, I was interested in guy like 17 years back in school I expressed my feelings to him , but I said he did feel the same way , it broke my heart was quite difficult for me to get through all that . He was involved with many girls. At the end of the school I became cordial with him started talking to him again as we might not see or meet each other . He went abroad but he used to call me once in 4-5 months and he had girlfriends. We use to meet once a year when he visited , this happened 3-4 times . I wanted to move on a guy was interested in me I thought of giving a shot but I still kept looking for him in that guy so things never worked . I was never in any relationship. Then one day he called me to tell he is getting married I was happy for him but something broke inside me took me months to accept it but he again called me to tell it didn’t worked . We met again he spoke about that gave me a red rose wanted to get intimate with me but I resisted refused and that was the last time we met . There after we spoke few times he asked me to marry him but I was quizzed. After few years he called and told me he got married. I was happy for him but this time something died inside me . I blocked him on FB and his phone number . My parents made me my suitors for marriage but things never worked . And after 10 years the rose he gave I threw it and exactly one month later he called me wanted to meet me I was busy with couldn’t meet him . But I was anxious, scared , happy and angry all mixed up . He is married and has two kids . Now he text messages me once in 2 months . He says I am special to him . But I am getting disturbed, it’s such an unsettling feeling I want to get over with all this once and for all . I have never being in any kind of relationship with anyone my whole life .

    • Ritu says:

      Hi Guneet, this definitely sounds like a karmic relationship. You have a strong attraction to him, that seems unexplainable, and it’s a soul connection most probably. I have been in a serious friendship where it was more than friends but we couldn’t admit it to each other for seven or eight years. Finally we admitted that we were attracted to each other, and started to see each other. It wasn’t a smooth relationship however. It caused me a lot of pain and eventually I had to completely cut him out of my life. But I still couldn’t forget him. Finally when I realized that I have done the same things to other people as he did to me, our karma finally dissolved, and I could be neutral towards him again. Now I have love in my heart for him, but I don’t feel any attraction towards him anymore or any need for us to meet and be together. I hope this helps you somehow. Try to look for what his behaviour is mirroring that’s already within you as well. Once you see the similarities between the two of you, it will be easier for you to become neutral towards him.

  • Srishti says:

    Hi Ritu, I’m 27 and I’ve never been in a relationship until I met this guy in our office who’s dated multiple women in our office itself. I’ve known him for 3 yrs and we both disliked each other since the beginning, but I don’t know how we started to like each other, we spent hours talking to each other.
    Before I knew, I was in love with him, head over heels and I knew that he was not the one for me, we were totally incompatible. I tried hard to get away from him, even left my job because we were going too fast, and I knew it wouldn’t end well.
    But then during the lockdown, we were in touch and instead of losing feelings for him, I fell deeper in love with him, while he was falling out of love.
    I could not even have sex with him, he was very selfish in bed and I even felt violated at a point.
    I knew that he was more interested in sex, but I have this feeling that I have a lot to give to him. I’ve reluctantly broken up him, since I feel mistreated, but still can’t stop thinking about him, I cry all day. I want to give him so much love, I don’t know what to do with all the feelings I have for him. I think I prematurely ended it and there’s unfinished business, I feel I have to suffer more.

  • lula lilian says:

    how i ended karmic relationships? i didn’t bother with power phrases or anything like that, i simply gave them the kick in their back and bounced them off my life and vicinity. i’ve ghosted and shunned them for good. they practically do not exist. anyone who proves to be a karmic scum is going to get the same treatment from me. i really can’t be bothered with deep thoughts and meditation or whatever.

    • Ritu says:

      Sometimes ghosting is the only way to cut it off cleanly. I’ve done it too and had it done to me. It works!

      • Rita says:

        Hi Ritu,
        Thank you so much for this post.
        Am grateful this has come by on one of my darkest and helpless days… I do not have people to really share this with and I hope you’d be able to read this and resound with your opinion.
        I am recently had a lockdown wedding a year back to this most amazing, talented and spiritual man I met 3 years back.
        I’ve never dated and he’s had a lot of women before me. But we met it was a passionate whirlwind and before we knew it, we were living in. We’ve had our share of the most amazing spiritual conversations and growth but we also have realised that we are not really compatible. Am ambitious and well educated while he’s an actor and has been having difficulty earning. Despite how much we seem to love and care for each other, our relationship has been getting abusive day by day.
        Am trying to adjust a lot, which is quite unlike me, but he seems to want other women, says he’s unhappy with me, but the next day becomes alright and affectionate and doesn’t want to let me go.
        Now the additional angle is he’s going through some kind of psychosis and has delusions about people harming him and stuff, and it’s getting really really difficult.
        I want to walk away but I also want to be there for him at his worst. And don’t know when is the right time…
        Reading about karmic relationships, I feel like we were definitely in one because I’ve learnt truckloads from him about life and my issues that I haven’t in the past.
        But is there a way I can help him out faster and know when is the right time to call it quits. We both aren’t able to be with each other and without each other.. it’s so painful, this attachment.

        • Ritu says:

          Hi Rita, it sounds like you already know what you have to do. Follow your gut for the higher good of both of you.

  • Cat says:

    I have enjoyed reading this article and others of yours today. I am in the midst of making some big decisions with my current romantic relationship. I’ve been with my partner for 13 years total. I recently had a sidereal astrology reading and we determined it is likely I am in a karmic relationship. It does feel that way.
    We were very attracted to each other when I met, I moved in with him after just a couple of weeks. Things seemed great, even unbelievable. Over not too much time, challenges surfaced. I am far from perfect, i tend to be introverted and have some trouble communicating and expressing myself fully. However, I know that does not make this ok.
    In 13 years, I have never yelled at my partner or called him names. He has, however, called me every insult under the Sun, as well as there have been a number of instances of physical harm towards me such as pushing/spitting, etc. I broke up with him after 5 years, but he had a meltdown and begged me and after 6 months I went back. Things reverted and now after 8 more long years, I have had enough. There is alcohol abuse on his part as well.
    I feel so connected to him yet so distant. I want things to be much better but dont know if they can be.
    It’s like ‘Heaven’ and ‘Hell’ but more so ‘Hell’. I dont know if I just need to keep on working through it or should call it quits.
    The astrologer told me that in order for this to work, we should balance the 12th house in our relationship which governs unconditional acceptance, healthy ways of finding peace, spirituality. Goodness this seems an insurmountable task ha.
    Have you any thoughts about this situation?
    Thank you so kindly.

  • cat says:

    I should also add to the above, my partner is very hard working and protective, and has a very kind and gentle aspect, but seems to be overshadowed whenever he feels I have neglected his desires or feelings or needs.(An example could be he has asked me not to do something a certain way and I forgot and still do it, or vice versa. Or he takes it as an insult that I dont explain something in a way that he understands and if I don’t immediately apologize and call myself an idiot he gets angry)… OK enough of this novel I have written, I could go on forever, 13 years of sh** is a lot HAHA 😉

  • Sinner says:

    Hi… I had a relationship with a guy frim last 23 years with a lot of turbulence… But we were finally easy with each other… But he died last mnth… How do i process this relationship

    • Ritu says:

      I’m so sorry for your loss. You can still heal the relationship by writing him a letter telling him everything you wanted to say while he was still alive. Trust that his soul will get the message and you will get a message back in some way or form.

  • charlea says:

    Hi Ritu,

    I was in a karmic relationship for 1 and a half years, it was like fate when we met, and we were completely inlove , like nothing i have ever experienced before, and he felt the same. It was rocky from the start because he lied to me and showed some red flag behavours, but i chose to ignore this because of the way i felt about him. our highs were very high, and our lows very low, i became a more anxious version of myself because this relationship consumed me, and i never wanted to beleive my gut instinct that i could not trust him, and his anger issues were not good leading to it being volitile, i beleived its because we were so passionate, but i didnt want it to end because when we wer good it was like the best feeling in the world. we were about to move in together into our first home and i had to end things because he lied to me about something he told me he never would, and then became phisical , and since then had sexaul contact with someone else very quickly after our break up. i didnt want to end it but felt i had no choice, he has since told me he regrets everything and nothing makes sense without me, nothing makes sense without him and i feel like i will never feel this way about anyone else again but i have told him he has hurt me too much to move forward. its been a month and there isnt a minuete goes by that i dont think about him, i know i deserve so much more then he gave me, i just cant seem to let go in my heart, and it seems nothing gets easier, it feels like we were supposed to be together, i feel so confused.

  • AJ says:

    I still have contact with my ex bc we have a minor child together. I’m still learning about my roll in the demise of our relationship, learning that I grew up in a toxic household and carried that into my adult relationships. My ex is very rude, mean, and blames me for everything. How do I break this karma? He does not respond to “stop it”, “don’t treat me this way” etc. Instead, he laughs at those comments and gets nastier. The best way to not encourage his behavior is for me not to engage with him. When he yells or swears at me, I stop communicating. I don’t shut down emotionally but I disengage from his presence. What else can I do to release our bond?

    • Ritu says:

      Hi AJ, I have such a relationship in my family so I’m very familiar with this. The best thing you can do is to truly move on and be very happy in a new relationship or a new situation like a new job or career. The second and most important thing is to STOP FEELING SORRY FOR THE OTHER PERSON and stop feeling GUILTY. They are abusing your guilt somehow. Once you own your role in the split up, they will lose their hold on you. I hope this helps.

  • Maddie says:

    Hi there! Is it possible to leave a karmic relationship too soon? I believe that an old partner of mine & I were karmic, but fairly quickly I realized how toxic it was and bailed. I learned a few lessons, but it’s still lingering. It’s been so long, and I still feel like we’re unfinished. Like maybe I broke it off too soon. Then I read this and how you have to end the karma, not the relationship, and I can’t help but wonder if I was right. If I did end it too soon. And if so, what now? Do I try to work through it on my own, at a distance? Do I reach back out to someone I haven’t spoken to in months?

    • Ritu says:

      I would recommend working through it on your own at a distance. The healing can happen at a distance as well and it will be just as profound for you and for them.

  • Thilak S says:


    Here’s my story

    I have been friends with the girl since 2007, I see how we dint part away in these 16 years and stayed together as friends.

    In 2023 we thought may be we could be partners and expressed our liking towards each other.

    It all started very intense ,the attraction, the love , the sex,felt like this is it we are soul mates.

    Down the lane something inside me started telling this is not going to work. Went back and forth in the relationship, she hated me for it. There’s was a lot of confusion and fights over the silliest things.
    One fine day I wake up and realise I don’t have the love for her anymore.

    I said confessed the same to her and I became the bad guy, but I knew this wasn’t going to help us, that gut feeling , the intuition, the signs from the universe kept telling it.

    I called it off in nov 2023 and after looking up the internet to see if something was wrong with me? Did I need a therapist for going cold on the girl who loved me? Was I the bad guy ?

    I finally realised this was a karmic relationship. I learnt my lessons and prayed sincerely for forgiveness using the hoponopono method and that day she unblocked me and sent a msg saying let’s not have any bad blood and I want to keep it simple and no hard feelings.

    I am surprised how karma held us together for 15 years as friends and then ended it in one year when we paid our karma debts.


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