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If you’ve ever been dumped before then this question must have crossed your mind: “Will Karma get my ex for hurting me?” I have asked this countless times after getting dumped in High School and then again in my early twenties.

Now that I’m in my mid-thirties, I can tell you this from first-hand experience: Yes! Karma will most definitely get your ex back for what he or she did to you. How do I know this? Because I’ve LIVED through it – both as a dumpee and as a dumper.

Karma will make sure that your ex understands just how badly they hurt you because they will be hurt in the exact same way. If they left you for someone else, their next partner will leave them for someone else. If they cheated on you, they will get cheated on. That’s simply how Karma works.

Every book on Karma will tell you this: every single action someone takes, creates Karma. Good actions create good Karma (or Punya) and bad actions create bad Karma.

But wait! I’m not just regurgitating book knowledge. I’m telling you that this is 100% true because it is what I’ve experienced first hand on many separate occasions in my life. I share my personal stories below so read on.

Will Karma Get Him For Breaking My Heart?

When your ex dumped you and hurt you, he or she created a lot of Karma that they will have to pay for. Their Karma and their action will come back around and hurt them in the exact same way they hurt you when they dumped you.

So, YES. Karma will get your ex for breaking your heart.

Karma will get your ex so hard that they won’t know what hit them. But eventually, when they’ve suffered enough in the hands of someone else, something will click in their brain. They will finally realize they are getting back all the pain and suffering that they gave to you so long ago.

I’ll share a true story from my life about how Karma got my ex back at the end of this post, so keep reading.

Will My Ex Feel Bad For Hurting Me?

You can bet that your ex will feel bad for hurting you.

And if he or she doesn’t? Don’t worry. Karma will make sure they keep suffering until they realize what they did to you and feel sorry about it.

The thing is though that Karma works on a different timeline than what we are used to. It can take years, decades, or even lifetimes for someone to learn their lesson.

If someone doesn’t learn their lesson or pay for the bad Karma they created in this life, then they will learn it in their next life. They will never be free until they’ve learned their lesson.

Not only is it necessary that your ex feel bad for hurting you, but they must also truly feel sorry about it. Otherwise, they will never heal.

Even though Karma has its own timing and I said that it can take lifetimes until your ex will learn their lesson, it can also happen incredibly fast.

According to Yoga and Hindu philosophy, we are in the Kali Yuga (Kali Age) right now and in this time period, time is sped up. Karma in Kali Age and specifically how Karma works in romantic relationships in much faster.

Here’s the good news. Because it is Kali Age, when your ex breaks your heart, they will have to pay for this Karma in this lifetime. Even if they are 90 years old when they learn their lesson, Kali Yug will make sure they learn it.

How Do I Get Revenge On My Ex?

It’s completely natural that after you’ve been hurt, you want to hurt your ex back. Sometimes it’s not enough to leave it in Karma’s hands. Sometimes you might want to take it into your own hands and get revenge on your ex.

But here’s why shouldn’t. Not only are you lowering yourself to the level of your horrible ex, but you are also interfering with Karma. Be patient and let Karma do its thing.

If you try to take things into your own hands and get revenge on your ex, you’ll be creating so much bad Karma for yourself that you’ll be paying for it for lifetimes.

How Do You Respond To An Ex Who Broke Your Heart?

There’s nothing that can throw you off your balance than when your ex contacts you.

When your ex who broke your heart messages you out of the blue and wants to be in touch again, just wait. How you respond should be different based on what they say.

If they messaged you to say sorry, pause before you write back. Close your eyes and meditate for a minute. What do you feel in your gut? Is this real or just an excuse to weasel back into your life and vampire on your emotions?

Here’s a short video with a simple meditation that might help you to figure out how to respond to your ex when they contact you out of the blue.

Let your intuition tell you what their true intention is. If you feel that they are truly sorry, then write back and say, “Thanks for writing to me and for saying sorry. I appreciate it. Stay well.”

Keep it short and end the conversation.

Can Ex-Lovers Be Friends?

Can you be friends with your ex? Let me put it in one word.


Absolutely not.

Just don’t do it.

It will never be non-sexual or non-emotional with an ex. You have a history together and you will never be able to pretend that nothing happened between you two. You know things about each other that no one else does. It’s simply too intimate to be just friends.

Even when couples have a mutual breakup, it is never neutral afterwards. One person always desires the other a little more. One person is always sadder about the breakup than the other person. The scales are never ever even again.

This is especially true when one person hurt the other one.

You can try to make it work as friends but don’t be surprised when things get complicated or awkward. You might be setting yourself up for more heartache in the future if you choose to be friends with an ex who hurt you.

People don’t change. If your ex hurt you before, there is a 99% chance that they will hurt you again.

If your ex wants to be friends, just tell them that you have moved on and even though you appreciate the offer, it’s just not going to work for you and you don’t want to be friends.

How Karma Got My Ex Back (True Story)

In my early twenties, I was in a relationship with a guy who was about 10 years older than me. It’s not a huge age gap when someone who is 33 is dating someone who is 43. When a 23-year-old is dating a 33-year old, however, it’s a whole different level.

The older guy was obviously much more established in his career than me. In fact, I had just started working in my first real job. He was so successful at his job and quite rich, or at least that’s the impression he was trying to give everyone with his BMW convertible and fancy loft apartment.

But he didn’t impress me with his money. He knew the secret trick to get a young, slightly insecure girl to like him – just by being nice to her.

He was so nice to me and he was kind. He’d check in on how I was doing with multiple chat messages a day. He’d offer to grab me lunch 2-3 times a week, even if it was a simple sandwich from the corner store.

He made me feel that he was concerned for me and I fell for him.

I’m sure I gave away quite obviously that I liked him and he simply loved being admired.

One day we were out on the beach with a group of friends and obviously because I was in my bathing suit, he finally took notice of me. I hate to say it so crassly, but it’s true. That day, he finally made a move and kissed me.

I was so happy, you can’t imagine it. I was like a little girl who finally got her prince charming. But I was a little bit shocked and sad because he had kissed me when no one else was around and as we made plans to meet later on, it was obvious that he didn’t want anyone to know that we were going to see each other.

Even though I realized that we would have to date in secret, I accepted it because it still felt too good to be true. How could such a gorgeous, successful and older guy like someone as simple, young, and naive as me?

But little did I know, that’s exactly why he wanted me. Because I was so naive.

We dated for 2-3 months until my intuition started dropping clues to me that something was off with this guy.

I had a dream that he was with another mutual friend who also happened to be a lot younger than him. Almost a year later I found out that he had indeed been seeing her at the same time as he was seeing me.

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Once I started getting the feeling that something was off, he must have sensed it because he started distancing himself and eventually broke it off with me.

Here’s how Karma got him back.

In a weird trick of time, it actually happened partially before he was ever with me.

I found out that his ex had left him in a really messy way and there was a child involved.

He also got what he deserved because his best female friend also dumped him later. If you’ve ever had to break up with a friend, you know how painful it is.

It’s been almost 15 years since this happened and as far as I know, he’s still single. I’m not sure because I don’t keep in touch with him anymore. It’s better that way.

I’m sure he’s been cheated on in the meantime and been forced to be in a secret relationship. Everything that he did to me has been done to him – by Karma.

How About You?

So what brought you here to be reading this right now? Were you hurt by an ex and you’re hoping against hope that they will feel a fraction of the pain that they put you through?

Are you thinking about how you could get revenge on your ex? Has your ex contacted you lately? Do you think they feel bad about hurting you? Do they want your forgiveness? Do they want to be friends again?

And what do you want? Would you take them back as a friend? Or even as a lover? Can you forgive them for hurting you?

I’d love to know, so tell me your story in the comments.

You can help another reader by sharing your advice and your questions, so I hope you’ll share.

If you know someone who has been hurt in a relationship, please share this post with them. You could be helping ease someone’s deep pain.


  • Richa shanker says:

    Hi am richa, I want to share my personal and bad experiences although need suggestions to come out from these situations,when I was at the age of 17. I was sexually abused by my relatives they both husband and wife tortured me mentally and it was the worst condition of my life .Also this is the secret no one knows and after that I fell in love after 4 years he ditched me left me alone and he married with another girl she died after 1 year again he married again, when I need someone there was no one to heal me it took me 2 years to overcome but unable to forget him totally. I was struggling both in professional as well as personal life I was very alone so that I was searching for a soulmate or gud frnd again I found mean people who hurts me they made emotionally fool they used me after that they left me alone in my hard day’s again I got into depression and this happened several times with me . A few months ago a neighbour he wanted to come close to me I think due to lockdown period he wanted to time pass with me.
    Initially I ignored to talking to him but he showed so much care and how kind hearted he is and try to attracted towards him he also has a relationship but he said it didn’t work I thought it was not going good finally he made promises that he will maintain true frndship with me and never left me alone. Finally we came close to each other, we had sex also but after sometime I realised that he ignored me and showed bzy and when I argue about on this topic he insulted me atlast he told me that whatever he told me about his relationship that was not true his relationship is going well so I realised he made me emotionally fool he wanted to use me and time pass with me he suddenly cut down me from his life and and behaved like a stranger I again ditched in frndship also it is not frndship it’s something else. In the last I want to ask everyone hurt me,insulted me, broke my heart again and again and I have seen all that person enjoyed thier life even they didn’t think what they did to me.why I m suffering from these situations and I never hurt people and ditched someone so why me ? when will they pay for their karma and when my lonliness will over I m broken my trust is broken I hope u will reply as soon as possible I am waiting plz help me…

    • Richa shanker says:

      Plz reply I am waiting for ur response

      • Ritu says:

        Just posted the reply. Check it out.

      • Kerry Tyrrell says:

        I was with my ex nearly 6 years he had been abusive physically towards me he was very controlling he cheated on me a lot with women and even a man .. I had 3 eptopic pregnancies with him one 3 years ago one last jan and one on the 12/2/21 very recent and I almost lost my life due to internal bleeding and loosing a lot of blood in surgery on each occasion he cheated or I found him texting women . He has stolen money from me made out I’m the bad one to other people he even tried to turn my own children against me .. when I had this eptopic we was separated and I found out weeks after I was pregnant and did not want to tell him as I was scared he would jinx it . He knows now and has shown no sadness he has shouted at me made me feel so low and weak and even told me his on dating sites out of boredom after sending texts saying his sorry this happened and he loves me he is so confusing and I’m hurting so much . I at times want to make him feel the pain I do . I no longer have my tubes I’ve lost my babies and his living life like nothing has happened and already lining up his next victim

    • Ritu says:

      Dear Richa. First of all, thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly. You made yourself vulnerable here and that is a huge step in your healing. The people who have hurt you will pay for their karma, this is guaranteed. When this will happen, this is the tricky part. Karma has its own schedule and Karma has infinite patience, so it can take anywhere from a couple of days to a couple of years to a couple of decades until They will learn their lesson. Instead of focussing on watching the other people get hurt back because they hurt you, What will help you more is focussing on your healing, and make yourself number one. You are your biggest priority, and all the other people from your past who have hurt you can go to hell. What can you learn from your past experiences? What type of guys are you attracted to who ended up hurting you? Is there a pattern here? If you find a pattern then just avoid this type of people in your future.
      And most of all, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for falling for someone who broke your heart. Forgive yourself for getting involved with your neighbour who ended up just using you. You had no way of knowing that he would do this, so you were innocent. Forgive yourself for making this mistake and acknowledge your innocence. Karma will take care of those guys, you can trust in that. Whether you get to witness it or not this I can’t say but it will happen for sure. It is also possible that you had Karma with these people from past lives that you needed to finish. Now that you have come together and split apart again, maybe the karma is finished and you won’t have to go through this With these souls ever again. Stay strong, believe in yourself, and believe in your innocence.

  • Richa shanker says:

    Thank you dear, love you

  • Richa shanker says:

    But one question comes in my mind being ditched again and again I loose my trust and faith on males. I am totally alone in my life. There is no one with whom I can share my feelings and emotions and am fed up with my lonliness. Will I get my soulmate will I trust anyone in my life?? I was totally alone in my life that’s the reason I trust people again and again they ditched me and left me alone it’s is impossible for me to trust again on a guy now I am at the age of 32 when I was at the age of 17, I m spending my life like a hell could you please tell me will my singleness and lonliness end forever or not,I fell in love again with a right guy or not??

    • Richa shanker says:

      Plz reply ritu am waiting for ur reply am going through a very bad time

    • Avinash says:

      Bitter truth is you will never love anyone bcoz of ur past experience but u can love yourself hit the gym go to parlour try new things n just have fun for yourself n be away with caffeine alochol it worse your mental health..
      I was in same situation felt in depression for almost 20 months but now I don’t even want to love anyone just me.

  • Theresa says:

    Also he’s having a affair for over five years just found out please help ritu

    • Ritu says:

      Dear Theresa, I’m sorry to hear that your partner has been having an affair for so long. Are you still in shock after finding out? I know a few months have passed now… If there is any advice I can give, please let me know.

  • Richa shanker says:

    I was waiting for ur reply why r u not replying dear ritu

  • Ky says:

    I am very heartbroken and I dont think i can ever forgive my ex for what he did to me, sometimes I feel like cursing him and sometimes I try to calm down to let Karma do its own thing, so here’s what happened. I met this Indian guy online on an online game called “avakin”, at first we were friends… he called me “buddy” all the time. When we met, he was trying to contact me all the time so we were basically chatting everyday 24/7. I had no intentions to fall for this guy but as times went by, I was falling for him and I just felt soo happy whenever we talked. Months later he confessed his love for me. I was quite shock because he made it easier for me since I loved him aswell. We did everything together… even though we were in 2 different countries, it didn’t stop us from doing things together. We slept together on the phone, ate together, listened to songs together, watched videos together,kissed and so much more on the phone. The crazy one is that whenever he was sleeping, I would have headphones in just to hear his breath over the call… ik it sounds weird but we both thought it was cute. He did the same for me aswell,when it was time for me to sleep, he would have his headphones in, listening to my breath and give kisses over the phone whenever he heard me move. It was the sweetest thing ever and I was falling harder and harder for this guy. I was soo happy everyday because I had him in my life and I felt like he was the one. His friend even told me the girl in his previous relationship dumped him and married another guy, kinda like she was forced by her parents… which made him lose his mind and he was doing crazy stuff like smoking and all and even tried to kill himself but ever since i came in his life and even though that girl was physically with him, he didn’t feel as close to her like me. And that he would always tell him how much he’s never loved anyone this much before and the friend even told me to never break his heart because he loved me unconditionally…We had the relationship going for 2 years then after those years things started to change. He’s a medical student in India and sometimes he complains about the fact that he is busy and all and gets very tired. But honestly I believe, if you really love someone, you’ll make time for them. But i wasn’t that needy girl and I understood his situation so i was ready to wait if i had to but thing is he started to change.. sometimes he would come online ignoring my messages, ignore me completely and later find an excuse. What made me go crazy was that I saw on his insta that he commented on this girl’s pic with heart eyes emojies and they seemed to knoweach other.. and that totally broke my heart. I confronted him about it and he just said it was just a friend and that I am crazy and all type of things. He yelled at me over the phone, insulted me and all sort of things because I messaged the girl to insult her. I didn’t want to lose him because he was my everything and couldn’t think of a life without him. Again he kept changing, those cute moments we had on the phone was over because he would totally ignore me. I was suspecting he was probably cheating on me with her but I wasn’t sure because he said he didn’t know her like that,, she’s just a friend and right now he doesn’t have the for love or relationships. It hurt me so bad because why make someone fall for u just for you to break their heart at the end.. the girl was still my concern because she was in his college too in India while I am all the way in the USA. I even went behind his back messaging his friends to ask if he had a gf over there and they said no but apparently they told him about it. He got mad at me, wishing me to go to hell, wishing bad things on me and that I was crazy… i had never heard him yell at me like that before, I was heartbroken. Its crazy how people can change so quick. One time we had another argument and even the fact that I was apologizing for going behind him asking his friends, he was yelling at me instead, insulting me once again so and it was like we were arguing pretty much every day so that one argument made me literally burst up in tears while I was at school. I proceeding on to blocking him on whatsapp. It was a very difficult moment because I wanted him so bad but I had to be strong and not make myself look desperate. I would spy on his social medias, see his last seens and all. I kept thinking about him everyday because I wasn’t used to this… no more kisses, cute messages, all the things we used to do together. After some months I unblocked him and wished him happy birthday and he asked if I could be his bestfriend and I said ok. But in my heart I wanted him back but it was obvious that he didn’t love me anymore. Its very difficult seeing him as my friend because of the things we had experienced together as couples in the past. Just last week I even posted on my status that I had stomach ulcer just to see his reaction and to atleast ask me what happened , am I ok and all. All he said was “I told u would get stomach ulcer” . When we were together I wasn’t eating much which is why he said that… but again i had faked it just for him to have pitty or atleast ask me if I’m ok… its been about 5 days now and he hasn’t even texted me to ask about my health. I was heartbroken again because it showed he didn’t care at all. If karma is really real, I want him to suffer the pain I went through with his next girl he gets. All the heartaches, crying all night, starving myself coz I had no appetit at all, distancing my self from family and friends…I was literally going crazy because it was my first real relationship and love and he just broke my heart like that. Even now as I am typing this, I have a heartache… I am wishing on him that he will never be happy with any relationship he gets in because he’ll never find anyone like me again. A girl who is dumb enough like me.. love somone so deep that she forgets about herself. Idk what to do anymore, should I block him and let him go forever? Should I curse him? Should I confront him? I tried so many time to forget about him, move on and hate him but its difficult because I still have those strong feelings for him. I never cheated on him, I never did him wrong… I gave him my heart and he just threw it on the floor like it was nothing and I didn’t mean anything to him. Hes acting like we were never lovers and thats really painfulAnother thing is when I had messaged him to say happy birthday, he told me he always had an eye on me, meaning he was spying on me too through social media so idk if he still has feelings for me because why spy on someone u don’t care about is he trying to pretend to be over me? But anyways sometimes I feel like karma doesn’t work… thanks for reading my story

    • Ritu says:

      Hi dear Ky, I can’t agree with you more about this: “But honestly I believe, if you really love someone, you’ll make time for them.”
      If you even care a little bit for someone, you’ll make time for them. Period. That was the first sign that something was off. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I don’t know what to say but it does sound like you had Karma to finish with each other from a past life. I think it’s not over between you two. Something more will happen. Maybe only on your side and only internally, or on his side also internally, but I think this isn’t over. I know you both will find freedom from this experience and the pain in this relationship. It doesn’t feel good when you hurt someone and I’m sure he feels that. Wishing you all the best.

      • Ky says:

        Thank you so much for reading my story and understanding me, I really appreciate this. Even though I wish we could be together, I honestly think this is over because there has been no contact between us for quite some time now…

        • Mani says:

          Hi there. I would only suggest you to get over this horrible person because I was in a similar situation. I almost felt like you were narrating my story. I’m telling you girl such guys are sick psychopath and extremely selfish. They use people and have zero empathy. Please please please get over this guy. You are a pure soul and he is an evil one and people like him don’t appreciate that. Don’t plan on taking revenge because these kinda people already have a pathetic life.You deserve someone who won’t leave you second guessing everything. I hope you find love within yourself and in the right time the perfect man will arrive for you. Love and hugs xx

  • Senu says:

    Hi I’m Senu and I would like to share this personal experience.

    There was this boy I used to love for like one and a half year but he didn’t make a move. Recently he gave me his number and asked me to call him and I did. When I called him he just asked me about getting in a relationship and I said yes bcuz no one will reject the person you truly love. We talked daily and texted everyday for like a week and a few more days but then we started talking little. It wasn’t me but it was him. I must have sent him 100+ texts but he kept me on seen and never replied. I must have called him 100+ times but it always dialed and he never answered . So one last time I just asked him “why” and then he said “nothing” and started talking again for like a few days. But then he started posting sad quotes about love , quotes about his girlfriend ignoring his texts and so on. I know I never hurt him or stayed without replying so it defenitly wasn’t about me. So through a text i just asked him if he has another girlfriend but he never replied to that question. But then I thought maybe I was wrong and I said sorry for Asking unwanted stuff but still he didn’t reply. At the same night I just saw he blocked me. So there was no way I could talk to him. I texted him through another number and he blocked it too. I was soo hurt. He filled me with a lot of love and just left which is killing me. So yesterday I gave my friend his number so she could text him and just find out what’s going on and he said her that he has a girlfriend and that he doesn’t want me. It was so sad though I have no tears left to cry. He put me through a lot all this time. I always used to talk alone and cry bcuz atleast God above knows how broken I am…….. But after all of this I still love him and I don’t have the guts to forget him. It’s really hard

  • Nessa says:

    My ex lied about partying at his job and convinced his Boss that I was crazy for calling him out. He got to keep his job, but I quit mine and moved back home. From experience from a previous job Many years ago karma has a way of revealing the truth!

    He wasn’t always kind with his hands and words. I’m happy I’m gone. He did break my heart, I forgive him. Karma has my back! Now I know what I don’t want in my next relationship.

  • Ritu says:

    Hi Jacquelyn, no worries about the long comment. You need to vent, and that’s perfectly fine. Why are you feeling hurt right now? Yes you let him in again and may be deep inside you knew that he hasn’t really changed at all. I think that’s probably why you’re feeling hurt not because he still an ass, but because you didn’t listen to your intuition and say no to him when he asked to meet you Because in your heart you still had a feeling that he still is a jerk. Could that be true?

  • Ritu says:

    Dear Amber, you have every right to feel angry and hurt. Yes it does sound like a karmic relationship, the psychic reader is probably right. The good news is that through this relationship, even though it was extremely painful and still is, you are burning a lot of your karma. On top of that, you are learning a lot about yourself – for example what you’re willing to tolerate in a relationship, how you will allow others to treat you in the future, And simply what kind of man you never want to be with ever again. I know it doesn’t feel fair at all what happened to you, and it isn’t, but you have to look towards the future and just trust that he will get what he deserves. The best part is that he is no longer in your life. Imagine you didn’t catch his lies and you were still allowing him to take advantage of you. How horrible would that be?
    Don’t blame yourself at all because to be honest, you are innocent in the situation. To heal quickly from this trauma that he caused you while you were throwing up, read my post on karmic relationship healing. I hope this helps.

  • Mariela Silva says:

    My husband hurt me so bad we dated for about 5 yrs and got married thur church wedding and civil wedding onces we were actually living together a couple of months passed and things changed he started acting different and before our 1rst anniversary he left me. He’s excuse was because we would argue to much but every couple does. Well 2 months of giving each other time i felted in depression and little did i found out he was actually seeing someone behind my back while telling me lies that he wanted to make things work. The girl called me one time to ask me who i was n i told her i was his wife . She didn’t care n the next day he was trying to come back home he lasted 5 days here at home and then he left me again to go be with her. I’ve been hurt by both him and her and It is pain full because the one person I thought loved me turned his back for a girl that has been married twice and has 3 kids from different dads but i know one day he is going to pay everything he did to me

    • Ritu says:

      Dear Mariela, he will pay. In fact he is probably already paying because he’s with someone who clearly has relationship problems as well. Being with a mom is already hard enough. Think of it this way. They deserve each other and you deserve someone else, someone different, who is more matched to you. And he is out there. Your ex leaving has actually opened the space for your new love to come into your life. Get ready!

  • Ritu says:

    Hi Shruti. Check out my post and find a way to get back your power. You will be stronger because of this experience. Trust in that!

  • Luiza says:

    I am so deeply sorry to see how you’ve been treated. I wonder how did you find out? it’s indeed sometimes hard to reveal. I feel like I’ve been cheated on as well yet I have never find out. He told me with pride he slept with someone after we broke up. And I also loved him, there’s still a part of me that loves the image of the person (I repeat image!) you too fell in love with an image of him, not the person he is. It took me year to understand I fell in love with the man he pretended to be. The way he treated you at the end revealed his character. You’re not alone in this. From time to time I have a lot of anger too. In order to release anger you need to realize he has no love inside him, he is broken inside so he keeps breaking other people. I know it’s hard but Pray for him. People who have love give love. People who are broken keep breaking others instead of doing inner work. You have so much love and you’re so much stronger. You are alive. You’ve been saved. By God himself. Say a big thank you to God and universe for having your back. This is your chance for greater. Believe in love. Watch eat,pray, love. Do whatever that can help you believe in love again. Have faith. Good luck! We’re all in this together.

  • Dorothy says:

    Hi Ritu,
    I just got your email and I immediately subscribed to your youtube channel 🙂

    I wanted to share with you something. My boyfriend of 4 years left me for another girl because we were in LDR that too a day before my 18th birthday. He was also texting his ex and a few other girls behind my back. Towards the end, he treated me terribly. I remember I was begging him to stay and trying to explain that this was just an attraction. He didn’t care. After the breakup, I decided to go no contact because I was not in a situation to text or call him. A few days later he started posting sad stuff on his Instagram. I was a bit confused but I decided not to respond to him anymore and blocked him. Then guess what happened? He started posting pics with his new girlfriend! ( one of my friends told me). It’s been more than a year. He is enjoying with her and here I am suffering and still crying for him.
    This reminds me of what I did to a guy when I was 15. I broke his heart and accepted this guy. I guess I got my karma back. After reading your blog I immediately called the other guy and asked for an apology. But I am a bit confused. Back then my ex left another girl to be with me and then he left me for a different one. Why didn’t he get his karma back even though he hurt two people? I hope you will reply me 🙂

  • Waiting & Working through Pain says:

    I believe in Karma, plain and simple. I just wish Karma doesn’t take so long to happen to the men/women who’ve caused so much chaos into the lives of those who suffer trauma for years. But Karma decides when, where, how, or how much will be dished out….hopefully if Karma allows, I will find out somehow – by then hopefully my life will have moved onto better pastures….and be much much better shape than his/hers.

  • Rochel Nolfe says:

    Because that’s invisible unless you really know the person. And especially with online relationships

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  • Anonymous #69 says:

    I’m reading this because I’m considering cheating. I have been rushed into the relationship and it is very fresh. It is a very complicated situation. Will it affect my karma that badly if it’s early? Should I just avoid it all together?

    • Ritu says:

      To avoid the karma, it’s better to end the relationship first before you sleep for the other person. Yes you might be creating karma by breaking the heart of the first person, but what creates even more karma is when you’re dishonest with yourself. If you’re not that into them, then by continuing to be with them, you’re continuing to create karma for yourself.

  • Maria says:


    I’m 57 years old woman. I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years. The man is 65 never married. He says he suffers from depression. He asked me to move in with him. I moved out of state, he met my family, adult children, went to their wedding, is in wedding photos, attended baby shower 3 years later.

    A year later I found on his phone he has been talking to woman all over the world, USA, and his neighbors wives. He claims “THEY ARE LONLEY”.

    I am moving out. What I desperately want is revenge on him for lying to me for 1,095 days in the row. To me he is a man who we hear on the new, and we tell our girls to stay away from a man like him.

    I unfortunately am stuck here for 2 months so to my health and financial reasons.

    Please help me to leave without revenge so I can be happy with my new grandson and new life. Thank you May 2021.

    • Ritu says:

      Dear Maria, I wish you all the best in leaving him. If he was dishonest, then you have good reason to feel how you feel. But so this doesn’t happen again, ask yourself why you attracted this man into your life? There is an opportunity to find out something about yourself here. I hope you will explore this.

  • Shusmita Sharma says:

    Sir or Ma’am I did something wrong 6 years before I got my karma….i have the Ques in mind will he got karma who hurt me

  • Arnold says:

    I thiught I was going to be in a relationship in November. She made me feel wanted and when I came around she vanished. After a week fo self pity. I set out to make 2021 my year. Got clothes that I was always to scared to get before since I thought they made me stand out. Hit the gym and be happier. Then a month exactly after that woman disappeared, I met her. She was great. Everything clicked. Her favorite restaurant is a mile from me. She wanted something real as I did. It felt like a fairytale. Her sister (her only family) liked me and her two best friends did as well. She had been cheated by her ex six times in the course of two years. I decided to do the opposite. I was going to give her love and respect. I got her food and made sure she knew I appreciated her. She could always count on me. A college student with goals and dreams that he wants to accomplish including a family and home. I started to believe it was with her. Three months later she ends it. She basically ignored me for 2 weeks and then dumped me. I could see it coming and tried to change the outcome. But it happend. She was the first woman I can say that I fell in love with. I did all that for her and she got rid of me. I dont know why. She said she wanted a meaningful relationship with respect and love that didnt last a couple of months. And thats what happend. She was scared of getting in a relationship and tell her friends about it and then tell them some other time how they aren’t together anymore. It hurts for sure. I know she has her plate full right now. But the one thing I know so far she has done is get rid of me. All I got her for her Birthday and then a month later I am out the door. I look back at it and it makes me sad. Yet, I know at times she was rude to me and seemed to take me for granted. I know this is probably for the best. But I can’t help but feel sad that all that is gone now. Just like that. I know my self worth now. I have traveled and being doing stuff outside my comfort zone lately. I know what I can give. But the idea that I wasn’t good enough for her is still in the back of my mind.

  • marlon soriano says:

    Hi miss ritu my name is marlon soriano i live in Cleveland Ohio on 45 years old and single. After reading your blog as far as the karma situation goes I wanted to write to you because I was married for almost 5 years I would say a beautiful wife let’s just say I adore this woman I told her how beautiful she was every day I told her she was my everything because for once in my life I gave my all to that person including my own life because that’s what I was supposed to do for my wife. But later in our marriage I started getting a gut feeling of something was not right and sure enough it wasn’t I tried to confront her about it but she would never admit to anything and we’ll get mad which is a clear sign that she was getting defensive needless to say when I first met her she had too many insecurities and I will tell her how beautiful she was because to me she was a very beautiful woman with whatever she wore and I believe that I gave her that big head to feel like she could do whatever she wanted and she did she got breast implants you know started looking better for herself which I told her she was a beautiful woman. But I also believe that by me telling her how much or how beautiful she was and how much I loved her that is one of the reasons why she decided to cheat because our sex life was great we didn’t have problems in that department just normal relationship arguments and stuff like that but I still can’t find the answers that I want or I need! she was cheating on me with someone that we both knew and who was the son of her dads new wife but when i put the pieces together i confronted her and of course no answers just denials and a attitude behind it. so with that said i have been so hurt angry mad lost and confused since then because i didnt deserve this! no relationship is perfect and we made mistakes but i never did that behind her back. its been almost 3 years since that happened and yes she is irrelevant to me she doesnt matter . but what i am still struggling with why, where and , how questions and honestly I don’t need to talk to her in order to get closure so after reading your blog i decided to ask you how do I let Karma take its course because for the longest until this day I feel like taking matters into my own hands because this was unfair uncalled for and horrible at the same time but that’s not the way to go so what I’m asking is for a little bit of input or help on how to just learn to let Karma take its course. Yes of course as human beings we tend to react first and think later but this time for the first time in my life I chose to not take revenge on anybody but I guess I’m still struggling with the fact that I feel like she hasn’t paid for what she did yes I am deeply hurt, yes I’m still struggling Within Myself to do a lot of things I used to do, because this was a horrible thing to go through involves me my family her kids my step kids which I cannot see and I have no control over because they were my step kids so I’m just trying to find the best way I can just completely completely regain my full strength because it’s taken this long for me to even feel a little bit better Even though in reality I do realize that I have to let Karma take care of it but I just need to know what kind of steps do I need to take in order for me to feel like it’s going to be okay she’s going to get what she deserves not that I wish her bad because I don’t but we all pay for what we do in this lifetime somehow I thank you for your time sincerely
    Marlon Soriano.

    • Ritu says:

      Hi Marlon, I understand that you’re struggling not to take revenge into your own hands. The only thing I can say is that by taking revenge, you create so much bad karma for yourself that you’ll be paying it back for years and maybe even lifetimes. In order to protect yourself from future pain and suffering, you have to resist the urge to take revenge.

  • J says:

    I was with my ex for 2 years and she treated me bad and broke my heart she left me for other guys and she wanted to work things out for a 2nd chance And she was still being hurtful will all that karma still come back to her but worse ?

    • Ritu says:

      Hi J, yes, she will get her Karma. In fact, she is already suffering. That’s why she’s jumping from one guy to another. Eventually, she will overcome her demons and realize her mistake. Your job is to avoid such people. Focus on yourself so you recognize why you were attracted to her and avoid this in the future.

  • Neelima bhowal says:

    I am married but my relationship with my husband was not going well as we have compatibility issues… I was in depression and that time I found this guy…. He was my friend colleague… We became friends and later he told me about his bad relationships.. He said he was into several relationships and every girl cheated on him… His last relationship was very painful as the girl cheated on him several times. I got very emotional towards and with time we got close… We got physical and he showed so much care… As time went by he showed ignorance towards me and used to talk rudely… But i was so involved emotionally that I can’t see his rudeness… I told him that I am taking divorce and we can start fresh, me and my new partner. At first he was hesitant then he agreed. After a few months one fine day he suddenly blocked me from everyway. Blocked my no., social media accounts etc. I tried calling him from other number then he insulted me by saying that I was being selfish that I was leaving my family for him.. I am a selfish woman… And he also said he got engaged with some other younger girl… He dumped out of the blue for a young girl… He didn’t even felt sorry that he did this… He could have clearly spoke to me but he did directly blocked me. Later on I heard from my mutual friends that he was in love with me… He was just having time pass… Will this person face his karma… I really want to see him in pain… I am in lot of pain due to him

    • Ritu says:

      Hi Neelima, I know you want to see him in a lot of pain because you are suffering. But wanting him to be in pain actually creates negative karma for you. the best thing you can do is simply try as hard as you can to be content with your situation now. If that means finding someone new, then do it. Or if it means getting a new job and changing your situation, then do that. Accept what is currently happening and then you won’t want to cause him pain anymore. That’s the best way for protecting your own karma and letting the universe deal with him.

  • NJ says:

    What bought me to this page? Well I married my partner and we were together for 20 years, things weren’t so smooth, but in my stupidity I thought it was a patch we could work through. He moved out for a week- “to find himself” and left me devastated. It has now been over 2 years and although I have been sad and am trying to repiece my life back together, I vowed to myself that I would deal with this as much dignity as I could. Revenge was never part of my plans. In this time my suspicions came true that another person was involved, yet the cover up has been astonishing! I am still sticking to my plan of moving forward and holding my head high, I just wanted to know if karma would be served to the both of them for the pain they have put me and our child through!

    • Ritu says:

      Hi NJ, yes, they both will get their karma for sure. I’m positive about that. And I’m so happy that you said you don’t want revenge. That would just create a lot of karma for you for no reason. Move forward. Let them go. Make yourself free. Then the right partner or support system will come to you.

  • Shewta says:

    Hi Ritu, thanks for the articles you have written. What made me reach here was trying to find peace which was destroyed by a guy who was a colleague about 10 years back. He was shorter than me and our food habits were also different, he was not a meat eater, I was the opposite. When he said he loved me, I did not trust him fully, but was just friends with him. I told him it won’t work out due to many differences in religion and eating habits and also I had always imagined getting married to some one taller than me. But I continued speaking to him as a friend, he was relentless, cried, begged persuaded, I kept saying it won’t work out, but he convinced me saying he will take good care of me, please don’t leave me for these silly reasons. I then started doubting myself that was I being to harsh with him, I thought no one will love me like him unconditionally. I started to think may be I need to adjust a little and not think my life partner should be perfect, he used to pursue me relentlessly and asked me to talk to my family.. Which I was hesitant, but since he said he was very sure about this I did it. My parents were taken aback that I had found someone, just said this may not work out. Meanwhile he kept saying we need to convince them somehow, let’s do it then we will get married. Meanwhile we had some fights too and I used to be really angry with him during those fights. One fight was due to him sending pictures of skimpily clad women to a friend of his which I happened to see. All of a sudden one day he said he is no more interested in me and I could not believe it. I cried and cried on phone when he said this. He said I get very angry during fights which he can’t stand and also that I was a meat eater which he could not accept, same reasons I had to him in the beginning! We met in office as usual next day and he spoke saying his parents will not agree to this match, I could not believe it, I was in shock. After the conv he said okay let me drop you home and I said no he pulled at my bag and said come. I thought may be he was just angry and I went with him. While in the car he asked can I kiss you, I said no.. then I kissed him on his cheek and suddenly he kissed me on my lips. From there on I lost it, he kissed my hands and started touching my breasts fondling and kissing it. I thought oh he would have just been angry so he said he’s not interested. He has told me before that he would not touch me unless we got married. I got lost in the feelings and could not stop myself, everyday this continued we never went full extent, just kissing touching. But after going home, I would feel dirty and feel anxiety, I never understood what was happening, but next day he would call and persuade me to come with him, I was so vulnerable I would go with him and this continued. One fine day he said his family found a girl for him and he told me she was young beautiful and that he was the first guy for her. This made me feel very dirty, bad and horrible because I had also imagined that I would only touch my husband but here this guy has touched me and now going to marry someone else. He stopped calling me to come with him after he met her. Nothing could stop him, he got married to her, I attended his wedding too, felt so horrible, dirty cheap and used. I saw his wedding pictures he was so happy she was so happy, I felt so horrible, I started gaining weight got into depression could not share it with anyone due to the shame I felt. I stepped talking to him. We were in the same office for about 8 years after this, he never got any karma, in fact just the opposite, he looked very happy, continued growing in his career, had twins as he had desired when we used to speak about kids, and is doing great in life from what I see. And here I am, I am still in the same state as that time, depressed unmarried, no motivation to get better in my career. I realised he just wanted to see if he could get me.. because in office im looked at as someone unattainable he told me. Had so many realisations about him, that I should have trusted my intuition, but I did not believe myself. Everyday I suffer, but there is no karma for him. I may not have been perfect, but I did not destroy anyone’s life like he did mine :(, yet to get over this even after 11 years. Sorry to be so long, I hope to hear back from you.

    • Ritu says:

      Dear Shweta, thanks for your comment. I know you will find peace one day. That’s Karma’s job to give to you.

  • Marlon says:

    Mis Ritu.
    Wow i didnt know i had an a reply from you til now thatvi did some searching but thank you for the advice given. Well to put it in better ways and hopefully someone also can learn from my situation all i want to say is after so much pain and anger and all other things i felt i actually got back up as usual only this time it took longer why? Because for the first time in my life i gave not just my all but part of my weakness to the person i married. With that said im still standing against all odds and everything thrown at me. After thinking so negative towards women i realized that i cant do that because itvwont be fair to any other actuall good woman out there. I can’t say that im 100% myself or that i do everything right but im getting thereand the fight continues and i wont stop for anything. My thoughts towards my ex are way different from 3 years ago the love will always be there because my love is for life i wish her well i wish her a healthier life because of her health problems which i just never knew how to deal with and I was always told i didnt cared but it was the opposite so im sorry for not knowing how to deal with her situation. But what will never be solved is her not realizing what she did was a sin against what we believed in as far a a marriage goes and only god will pass that judment not me. Mis ritu i want her to be happy and for her to remember that even if i have to put my life on the line for her again or anyone else i have cared for I will do it again no questions asked my job in this world is to protect human life and I will continue to do and belive in that. As for me im ok and feeling good again i have a good job that i love i might be alone in this fight but the punches thrown at me on a dayli bases only keep me going for another round and I’m still standing weather its mental or physical i always stand tall even though im short so to speak lol. So to anyone dealing with the same issues it will be ok u just have to stand up and fight each individual fight in the way it comes and just fight revrngevis not a good way of dealing with people whom have hurt u etc etc and I had to learn that im not perfect and sometimes it takes an inperfection to see things the right way. It mught not make sense to others but it made sense to me. To mis Ritu u are awell educated individual that has a lot of tools at your disposal so thank you for your advice not just to me but to others going through much worse situations than mine take care.

  • Neha says:

    I was in a relationship for almost 5 years he had an habit of drug abuse before but somehow he made me realise he is not into drugs anymore .. so this year he did it twice .. he’s therapist says it’s because I’m the reason for his drugs intake .. he said since youre mom left you are so much dependent on me , that he had to be dependent on substances .. then he started abusing me a lot .. he became something that I couldn’t recognize him .. I feel so heavy injustice I was there for him understand after he took it ..
    He was into drugs from past 10 years

  • Anurag Pal says:

    Ma’am,My girl cheated on me and left me for the guy she cheated on me with. She promised me marriage and she used to say that “she can’t live without me”. She even told me that she wants to marry me in radhe-krishna temple in mathura (ancient hindu temple of lord krishna). She even asked me to gift her radhe-krishna idol saying that “it will be good for marrying you love”. She knew that after dad’s death I’m suffering a lot and that my relatives are trying to kick me and my mom out of the house. She knew i was struggling and am working hard for our future together. Yet she cheated on me and left me despite knowing all thag sufferings of mine. I even took a stand for in my family and in front of her mother as well. She treated me very badly in front of her mother as well and said to leave. I went into depression and taking treatment for it. Please tell me. Will karma make her pay for all that she did to me? I really need your honest answer ma’am.

    • Ritu says:

      Yes, dear Anurag. Karma will undoubtedly catch up to her. It sounds like life is giving you a big challenge right now. Even though it’s heartbreaking, her leaving your life has made room for more light to come into your life.

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