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Have you found yourself caught up in the rut of life lately? Maybe you are so busy and tied up with work, chores, responsibilities, and ‘grown up’ stuff that you are not even sure what you are striving for anymore and are merely trying to make ends meet. [themecolor]Sound familiar?[/themecolor]

My name is Aditi Ramchandani, and I started I Live With, for that exact reason. I was tired of being in a rut and was ready to start really living my life. Everyone I saw around me in their 20s was just as stressed, confused, and lost as me. It was almost as if keeping ourselves busy made us feel like we are doing something important when really we were secretly wishing, hoping, and dreaming that life will get better ‘one day.’

[themecolor]I was tired of being in a rut and was ready to start really living my life.[/themecolor]

It’s funny how ‘one day’ never seems to come on any day. Ever. And I know that because I have some friends who are in their 30s, 40s, etc. who are still waiting for their ‘one day’ to come. In fact they are in the same rut as I see people in their 20s are.

Realizing that one day is never going to come, I decided I needed to create this day if I wanted it. But what did I want this day to look like? I had no idea. That’s the best part about this scenario. Everyone wants this day to come but they have no idea what that day would look like. How can we spend our entire lives waiting for a special day but have no idea what we want that day to look like? Ironic right?

If you are in the same boat and know you want a better life for yourself but you have no idea what a better life means for you, it’s time to define it my friend. Because without envisioning a dream first, you can never live it. Tweet it.

So how do you figure out what you really want?

What your soul really wants? That is the million dollar question I get asked all the time. The answer might surprise you. You must start doing those activities that give you joy.

“What? I don’t have time for that. I have bills to pay!”

If you are truly ready for your ‘one day’ to come, it’s time to make room for joy in your life. The thing that most people don’t get is that: Engaging in activities that give you joy is allowing your soul to come out and play. And when you let your soul come out to play, it will talk to you. It will tell you what it desires through feelings, thoughts, inclinations, and loving nudges.

[themecolor]Engaging in activities that give you joy is allowing your soul to come out and play.[/themecolor]

I find that when I do things that make me feel calm, relaxed, or excited (which is my joy) I come up with so many ideas for and other things as well. Zumba or any kind of dancing is the way my soul likes to play. When I am in class, once I am warmed up and in the zone, it’s almost like my soul is coming out like a waterfall and ideas for my blog pop out and ideas for my coaching program pop out. It’s quite amazing!

Now that you know the secret, it’s time for you to find out what your soul desires. Now if you don’t know what activities give you joy, this next week pay attention to what makes you feel nice in your everyday routine. You will be surprised what simple activities make you feel good. Sometimes even a drive on a scenic street is what does it for me. Have fun taking your soul out to play! Leave a comment below to let me know what gives you joy!


aditi ramchandani

Aditi is an inspiration junkie who loves to inspire herself which automatically inspires those around her with a ripple effect. She launched an inspirational platform a year ago called where she documents her journey on finding ways to live with joy. She shares free tips and tricks with her readers on how they can build a life they love for themselves too!



  • Jessica says:

    I recently watched a brilliant TED talk by Meg Jay ‘Why 30 is not the new 20’ and now I find this post – I think the universe is trying to tell me something!

    I’m surrounded by disillusioned friends in there 20’s, it really is a tricky time for a lot of people. This post couldn’t have come at a better time – thanks =)

  • Aditi says:

    Hi there Jessica! I am totally going to look up that TED talk, thanks for the suggestion!

    And your welcome! Hope you enjoyed the post and got some valuable insight!

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